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So my sister and her hubby just had a baby girl February first and my sister didnt want kids but ended up pregnant anyway. She doesn't talk to her baby and hardly holds it she only carries her around in a little bassinet. They let their daughter cry so much to the point of where she is screaming at the top of her lungs. The thing I'm worried about is her husband threw her up in the air playing with her and she is only a month old I'm scared he is going to hurt her head or worse yet cause permanent head damage
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by on Mar. 4, 2013 at 9:42 PM
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CorpCityGrl
by Member on Mar. 5, 2013 at 1:03 PM

Could she have PPD?  Has anyone spoken to them about these concerns?

Someone needs to step in and do something ASAP.  Her husband can be potentially hurting the baby and she is neglecting the baby and there can be several reasons for her behavior, but this can't continue.  The baby is only a month old and even though she never wanted to have kids, she did and she needs to take responsibility and someone needs to intervene.

LilliesValley
by on Mar. 5, 2013 at 1:06 PM
Does your sister have post partum depression? That's really common and can cause bonding issues. Your bil sounds like he needs a parenting book or something to explain age appropriate stuff to him.
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sexy_lil_momma
by New Member on Mar. 6, 2013 at 1:49 PM
Well CPs has already been to our house because they left the hospital against medical adivise because she had some water on her lungs because she swallowed some fluid when she was born. Doctor said she needed to be on antibiotics for seven more days and her husband said he doesn't believe in antibiotics and they took her home a few days after she was born
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MomofHDFandNWF
by on Mar. 6, 2013 at 2:06 PM

Even though she is your sister - you need to figure out a way to help your niece.  The father should not be throwing her up in the air at that young age.  As far as your sister not interacting with the baby, could she be suffering from post-partum or do you think it is more that she feels "tied down" by the baby now? 

As far as them not wanting the family to have anything to do with the baby, are they thinking by them and you ignoring her, she will just disappear?  Do you know why if she didn't want a child, she 1)carried her baby to full-term and 2)didn't consider giving her daughter up for adoption?

Knowing your sister, do you think she and her DH can come to love and care for the baby?  If the answer is no, then it might be time to somehow step in so she can have the best life possible and not be "stuck" with parents that see her as a burden.

finlyhappy65
by on Mar. 6, 2013 at 2:42 PM
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 If you can't talk to her, then report her or you may be hearing about a funeral and then the guilt would eat you up for not calling and doing something.  You have to try to keep the baby safe.

Kmakksmom
by Stefanie on Mar. 8, 2013 at 1:45 PM
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