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Paying a babysitter in Food Stamps?

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Question: What do you think?

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I don't see a problem with it as long as her dd benifits from the food bought.

No. Foodstamps are for her family only. Not to pay a babysitter with.


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I watch my niece every other weekend or so and I get paid 20$. Well recently my SIL said money has been tight and she wants to know if she can buy me 20$ in food instead with her FS. I usually spend the money on snacks for her dd and the kids anyway.

I'm kinda up in the air about it. On one hand I want to; It will help her out and I will be feeding her dd with it but on the other hand I don't want to commit fraud either...

by on Mar. 18, 2013 at 4:27 PM
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paganbaby
by Chesty La Rue on Mar. 18, 2013 at 11:11 PM

Right? I asked a question. Questions aren't illegal,lol.

And that's pretty cool. I tried couponing like that and didn't get very far :-/

Quoting cndmom:

I don't know, I can see this both ways

As for getting caught, someone could easily report that you asked a question. Proving that she paid you in food stamps as opposed to making sure her daughters snacks were covered so as to not add a burden to your family, different story.

I babysat for my sister over the summer and she repaid me with stuff from her stockpile. She coupons really well and can get staples (peanut butter, jelly, pasta) far cheaper than I can. So she gave me groceries that would have cost me a given amount but cost her far less. It was a win win. So maybe I see this differently.


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paganbaby
by Chesty La Rue on Mar. 18, 2013 at 11:13 PM

That makes sense. I mean it's not like she's going to be dropping off her card for me to use for the month.

Quoting acrogodess:

The food stamp office won't care simply because the food is being used to feed your niece. Yes, other people are eating it, but the same goes for anything you are fixing from your own money that your niece eats from. The only way the food stamps office would care is if the family members of the cardholder was not benefiting from the food stamp benefits.


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paganbaby
by Chesty La Rue on Mar. 18, 2013 at 11:15 PM

I don't get breakssimple frown My family isn't really babysitter material. That and my son can a little hard to handle at times so yeah...

No, she doesn't go out and have fun, she just stays home with her 4 month old and enjoys some time away from 2yo dd. Honestly, I'm okay with her bringing food over. It helps out and she's not out of pocket so much.

Quoting calsmom62:

So really its more of a playdate and a nice thing you do for her. BTW...who gives you a break?? if she is spending$$$ on fun while you watch her dd every weekend, then she should pay you first. How you decide what is right for you, what you are comfortable with, and your situation is up to you.


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paganbaby
by Chesty La Rue on Mar. 18, 2013 at 11:18 PM

Oh I don't have a car. Dh does but us girls (and ds) just walk everywhere.

Quoting KRIZZ25:

i would say no ..u need gas and stuff .$20.00 bucks ant a lot..


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paganbaby
by Chesty La Rue on Mar. 18, 2013 at 11:19 PM

Good point,lol.

Quoting cndmom:

So my sister now gets food stamps if she invites me over for dinner, is that fraud?or should I bring my own? if she watches my kids and feeds them shoud I send them with food?

IDK this could get stupid quick.


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acrogodess
by Lissette on Mar. 18, 2013 at 11:19 PM
Depending on the state, they would consider it a waste of a phone call to their fraud department. While they would answer the call, it would likely never make it into their database to conduct an investigation. They would never be able to prove that you didn't already have the food in your pantry or that she purchased it for your home. Investigations cost money and if they're going to spend money on investigation, it will go into catching people living in homes purchased by their kids father who is pretending to charge them rent by pretending to be a roommate or landlord. :-/

Quoting paganbaby:

That makes sense. I mean it's not like she's going to be dropping off her card for me to use for the month.

Quoting acrogodess:

The food stamp office won't care simply because the food is being used to feed your niece. Yes, other people are eating it, but the same goes for anything you are fixing from your own money that your niece eats from. The only way the food stamps office would care is if the family members of the cardholder was not benefiting from the food stamp benefits.


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paganbaby
by Chesty La Rue on Mar. 18, 2013 at 11:20 PM

I like this! Problem solved,lol.

Quoting illinoismommy83:

How about you give her a list of snack food you'd like to have in your house that total around $20 and she can bring that same list of stuff every time. How she pays for it is none of your business then.


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audreesmama
by on Mar. 18, 2013 at 11:23 PM
Someone who overheard the convo or suspects anything could report it.


Quoting paganbaby:

Ha! Well then, it would have to be someone who knows me in real life and my sil. Then they'd have to prove it.

Good argument though ;-)

Quoting maecntpntz219:

Well, you just posted it on a public forum. Who knows who would find out :)



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audreesmama
by on Mar. 18, 2013 at 11:24 PM
Yep, then welfare fraud is her problem, not yours.


Quoting paganbaby:

I like this! Problem solved,lol.

Quoting illinoismommy83:

How about you give her a list of snack food you'd like to have in your house that total around $20 and she can bring that same list of stuff every time. How she pays for it is none of your business then.



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paganbaby
by Chesty La Rue on Mar. 18, 2013 at 11:24 PM

Good Lord! That's terrible :-/

Quoting acrogodess:

Depending on the state, they would consider it a waste of a phone call to their fraud department. While they would answer the call, it would likely never make it into their database to conduct an investigation. They would never be able to prove that you didn't already have the food in your pantry or that she purchased it for your home. Investigations cost money and if they're going to spend money on investigation, it will go into catching people living in homes purchased by their kids father who is pretending to charge them rent by pretending to be a roommate or landlord. :-/

Quoting paganbaby:

That makes sense. I mean it's not like she's going to be dropping off her card for me to use for the month.

Quoting acrogodess:

The food stamp office won't care simply because the food is being used to feed your niece. Yes, other people are eating it, but the same goes for anything you are fixing from your own money that your niece eats from. The only way the food stamps office would care is if the family members of the cardholder was not benefiting from the food stamp benefits.



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