Im building a brick garden border... and found someome who would give me 40 bricks free. Its 10:00am on sunday and im on my way home from grocery shopping with daughter. Husband watching tv at home. My mom calls and says (name) has 40 bricks but theyre leaving for the day and she told them we could probably go get them now. My mom asks"do you need me to come watch your girls?" I said yeah that would be great. Mom said "you need to call her right back" i ran home and said to husband "we can go get bricks. But theyre leaving in half hour so we have to go now. My mom is coming to watch the girls." Husband sits up and raises voice to say "what!? NO!" He goes off about how ive just planned his entire morning, and hes sick of putting his projects off for my stupid stuff. I said (pissily) ill come back when youre talking alittle nicer. He continued to complain i could hear him in the other room. My mom came and we left. We get in the car and hes livid that i didnt ask him first. I said i wasnt going to join this fight and he says " youd better say something cause im pissed" so i let him have it ( he asked for it) i said ive had enough of this fing tantrum. Youre acting like a child. (He asked me a long time ago in our relatiomship to always ask him before making plans which i have) but i said " there are times when i have to make decisions, and as my husband i expect you to help me." It took us all of 20 min. To do this errand and bet home. After his tantrum about how he never has time for his projects, he fell asleep at 11:00 and i woke him up at 4:00 to grill supper. I spent the entire dayspring cleaning our yard like he should have done, taking care of both girls and doing my own projects. We had a raging fight about it today. Hes mad about how i talked to him in the car, that i didnt ask him first, and he says i dont respect him. I say i deserve a husband who is willing to help me with errands. ( he drops me in a split second anytime anyone outside ourhome wants his help) i told him that normal couples spend their weekends running errands getting things done, and im not going to live my life around the things he "feels" like doing. What does cafemom think?
on Apr. 29, 2013 at 11:16 PM