I have just joined CM relatively recently, and I've noticed something that really bothers me. Before I go any further, I just want to make it clear that I'm making an observation based on my own opinions and am not in any way trying to offend anyone, so if I do, I apologize in advance.
I've noticed, being brought up as a woman, that our society seems to encourage us to judge each other, compare ourselves to others, be jealous of each other, and especially when we become mothers, to focus on what other mothers are doing wrong. This really bothers me. On a site like this, I would like to see more women coming together to support each other rather than being so quick to judge and call each other names and bash each other's opinions and parenting styles.
I think in general IRL this goes on too much. It would be nice to see more people in forums like this using them to have a place where they can express themselves and feel as though they have a community of sisters who can be there for them. Instead of being so quick to judge and call names, maybe we can try to ask questions to see where the others are coming from. I realize there are trolls in every forum, and I'm not so much talking about trying to do this with people who are deliberately trying to provoke, but maybe just ignoring them, and for that matter anyone else who feels the need to be nasty, rather than engaging them. I don't like to see the bad habits that society has taught us as women spilling over into forums that are supposed to be for just the opposite. I have been guilty of doing all of these bad habits in the past as well, so I'm also not trying to say I'm better than anyone else by any means. I just believe as women we need to work together.
I'm not bashing CM in general and I'm not by any means saying that this is the norm here. In fact I have seen many moms helping each other out and that makes me happy. I just wish that the people that feel the need to perpetuate the jealously, judging, and bashing would keep it to themselves. We've been so conditioned as women to act like this sometimes that I would like to see more of us working towards changing that. We have an entirely different set of challenges being women in the first place. I don't like to see other women making it harder.