I am fed up with my husband! First off, we're together for 6 years and married for almost 2 years. Most of those years has been hell! My inlaws don't like me or don't approve of me because I'm black and I'm not loud and disrespectful like them. They allow cousins to fight with each other and laugh like its funny...IT IS NOT! They want things their way or no way and thats not going to happen. They have disrespected me in many many ways and I have had it! My FIL and my SIL even told my husband that he should do a DNA test for our 1st son! The worst part is that my husband whom I love does not defend me at all and it heartbreaking, frustrating and embarassing. Most of the time, they talk behind my back but to my face they have nothing to say. I am a quiet person and I was raised well so I know how to avoid problems and I know how to act. I choose not to involve myself in gossip conversations and I choose to keep to myself as well as choose who to be friends with. Thats just me and I don't think there's anything wrong with that. My husband is unfair! There were times that I defended him. I even went months without talking to my brother because he disrespected him and he can't do the same for me! The next thing is, he smokes weed and we're having money problems these days. He spends 10 dollars after 10 dollars and does not regret it. We have 2 sons and possibly a daughter on the way! We don't need to be spending money that we don't NEED to spend. We are poor! We need to save money! I don't work and my husband lost his job 2 months ago. I've tried arguing, constant talking, nagging.. IT DOES NOT WORK. I feel hopeless and betrayed. I want to give up on our marriage completely and NEVER look back. I'm just tired and the only joy in my life is my 2 beautiful sons. I need advice please!
*****Thankyou ladies for all your helpful advice! There are many things that happened in the past months. I had a major arguement with my SIL and I made sure that I told her that I'm done with her shit. It felt great! We moved to Florida for 9 months and my husband stopped smoking and our relationship has grown a lot, I lost the baby but month later became pregnant with my now 6 month old baby boy. My husband and I went through ots of ups and downs but so far we are making it. Questions or more advice is always welcome.
on Sep. 5, 2013 at 5:27 PM