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Children's gift exchange with cousins...ideas?

Posted by on Nov. 25, 2013 at 1:54 PM
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I have a very large family! We have toned down Christmas extremely because it is impossible to be able to afford to buy for everyone. The adults don't even exchange anymore. The kids now just draw names and buy each other gifts but even that has turned into a tricky situation every year. We have kids of all ages, kids that live in town and some that live out of state and never come home for Christmas. We have step-grandkids and children from "significant others". And we even have "children from significant others" who live out of state and never come home for Christmas. We have had situations in the past where after the drawing and the gifts were purchased there was a break up and we never saw the child at Christmas or ever again and we had situations where the out-of-state kids did not send their gifts home in time for the receiving child to open it at the Christmas party. Because of this we made up the rule that you only put your child in the exchange if you plan on being there at the family Christmas but almost every year a child is left without a gift to open because someone said they would be there and then did not arrive. My sister has even gone out and bought "back ups" for these situations but she is getting tired of the gift drama every year. We want the kids to continue to have something to open on at our family get-together because that is what makes it feel like Christmas and the kids get very excited, even if it is only one $20 dollar gift. How do you do gift exchanges with your extended family? Any creative suggestions?
by on Nov. 25, 2013 at 1:54 PM
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believer_57
by New Member on Nov. 26, 2013 at 8:31 AM
Why don't you have the adults draw the childrens names? Hopefully, they are more responsable and can get the gifts to the child even if they can't come. Would that work?
CorpCityGrl
by Member on Nov. 26, 2013 at 1:29 PM

We have a large extended family and we do Secret Santa too, but with everyone.  The kids under a certain age are not counted because everyone gets them a gift (under 16).  If you are not going to be there for Christmas, then you are not counted in the Secret Santa.  It's worked for us every year.

mamarj
by New Member on Nov. 26, 2013 at 3:09 PM
It's the adults that are the irresponsible ones. They say they want their child in the exchange and then don't show up to Christmas. They don't think about the child on the receiving end that is sitting there watching everyone else exchange. Last year we even requested if you think you are not sure if you can come to please drop the gift off the day before. Didn't happen.


Quoting believer_57:

Why don't you have the adults draw the childrens names? Hopefully, they are more responsable and can get the gifts to the child even if they can't come. Would that work?

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NocturnesAngel
by New Member on Nov. 29, 2013 at 12:22 PM

Have you thought of just doing a Santa Drop, where Santa comes in & brings a gift for each child.

This way no one knows who bought the gifts (You could request a $ amount that each family give, say $20 or $15 per child). Give a deadline for the money or the gift to be dropped off (Maybe Dec. 15th) & anyine who doesn't have their money or gift dropped off doesn't get included in the Santa Drop.

I understand that this year will be hard to implement, but you can possibly start it for next Christmas, giving them a year to get a gift or give the monetary donation.

Good Luck & Happy Holidays!

KRIZZ25
by Member on Nov. 29, 2013 at 12:27 PM
wow..than dont do gifts ..have kids make something together .like cookies or something wen thar down .or have a used toy gift swap.every child bring a used in good condition in and put it in wile and let kids chose .but only for kids like 12 and under .or have every one buy for boy and girl (under $10 bucks each) and wrap girl /boy ..and put under the tress .
KRIZZ25
by Member on Nov. 29, 2013 at 12:28 PM
or every parent get a few of the same books(cheeps books) and wrap put under the tree.so kids get same thing .
aj_mom
by Bronze Member on Dec. 5, 2013 at 3:23 PM

We did a white elephant gift exchange last year with DH family it was a lot of fun.

MCA23
by on Dec. 5, 2013 at 3:25 PM

We're facing the same drama again this year!  The big plan was to go from everyone-buying-for-everyone down to a name draw for the kids... only it's somehow been bastardized around so that we're now buying twice for some kids and spending MORE than we normally would.  Bah.  Have no constructive ideas on how to help you make it easier, our family seems to fail horribly at this, too!

prdmama82
by Member on Dec. 6, 2013 at 8:00 PM
Most buy for the young kids in our family. But the adults do a thieves Christmas. It's so much more fun than just drawing names. The females bring a female gift and males bring males (or either can bring unisex). If someone wants to choose a gift of the opposite sex they can choose to do so. It gets really fun when people "steal" from one another too.
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