My daughter was caught shoplifting and I couldn't be happier
I know that sounds odd but hear me out.
My 14 yo dd has been hanging around some questionable kids lately. I've been suspecting some drinking, smoking (pot) and shoplifting going on. (Not with her but the kids) I didn't put a stop to it because I'm big on natural consequences. If it's not going to kill her, then she needs to learn her own way.
So Friday she tells me that she and her friend are going to walk around the mall. A couple hours later I get a call from security. The girls were caught shop lifting. I was pissed but not surprised. I thanked the man and told him her life was over. He laughed,lol.
When I got there she was scared out of mind, tears coming down her face while her friend just sat there looking smug. DD said she was sorry and I told her she would be. The friend's mom just looked tired, signed some papers and took her dd home. (She was outside later that day) I talked to the man and it turns out dd stole 3 shirts worth $76. Even though they got the shirts back, we still have to pay for them. I told him no, dd will be paying for it.
That's how I came up with the punishment. She will be grounded until she earns $76. She'll be working by doing chores and babysitting. Most chores are .25 or .50. She can do as many chores or as little as she wants. Work hard, your punishment will be shorter, be lazy and it'll be longer. In addition to that, she's never allowed to go anywhere with these kids again unless it's on our street in plain view of my sight.
It's day two, our house has never been cleaner, dd is seriously reconsidering her friendships and is asking to go back to church. I guess the church kids don't seem so unapealing now,lol. All choices she made herself :-) So yeah in way I am glad this happened.