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19 Things Moms Do Every Day That They Really Wish You'd Notice‚Äč

Posted by on Jul. 8, 2014 at 1:02 PM
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19 Things Moms Do Every Day That They Really Wish You'd Notice‚Äč

by Linda Sharps

Mother's Day is coming up soon, our annual celebration "honoring mothers and motherhood, maternal bonds, and the influence of mothers in society." Well, that's the official Wikipedia definition, anyway. I tend to think of it as the one day a year my husband has to be the one to coax a legible hand-lettered card out of our children. (Now you know how I feel on every birthday/holiday/special occasion, dammit!)

Speaking of tasks that reliably fall to us, I thought I'd ask some follow moms to share some of the ongoing chores they do that often go by completely unappreciated. A major shout-out to moms everywhere on this Mother's Day, because holy crap, we work our butts off for our families -- and a lot of the time, no one even notices.

Our least favorite jobs that we wish we'd get more recognition for:

Vacuuming up dog hair. No one seems to notice or care when the tumbleweeds suddenly disappear. -- Lauren

Grocery shopping/food prep. No one helps, cares, or appreciates the effort put into it. -- Tonya

... wiping butts for eight years straight! That's nearly 3,000 days x what ... five times a day min? 14,000+! Ahhh motherhood! -- Michelle

The constant mental checklist of noticing things -- prescriptions that need refilling, dentist appointments to make, school book orders. -- Kristen

Clearing out the too small/off season clothing, replacing socks and underwear, clipping fingernails and toenails. -- Marianne

Making appointments for people and animals and registering for EVERYTHING. -- Kelly

Cleaning up the kitchen. I feel like it's what I do all day, every day, and yet it is still a mess. -- PinkHerring

Laundry. No one cares about that until they're out of pants. And my 6-year-old likes multiple daily wardrobe changes, ugh. -- NonSoccerMom

Turning the clothes right side out when folding/putting the laundry away. -- Crazyplaces

Small cleaning. They appreciate big stuff -- dishes, etc. -- but forget if it weren't for me, the house would collapse under piles of clutter. -- Ashley

You mean apart from being here? Just being? Always the backup plan. How about Stocker of Household Goods? TP, shoes, bread, etc. -- Hopejumper

Cooking dinner -- almost every damn night I hear, "How many bites do I HAVE to eat of this?" -- Laura

Knowing where EVERYTHING is and where everything needs to be/go. -- Jessica

Grocery shopping. The food, it just magically appears the fridge in the amounts and kinds we like to eat! -- A'Dell

Being the keeper of the schedule. You know, always knowing who needs what for school, when birthdays are, etc. -- Hillary

Hustling -- always with the hustling of little people through breakfast, to the car, to get dressed, into the bath, to bed, etc. -- Gaby

There is literally zero appreciation for meal planning. Both in the sense that the effort it takes to seek out the recipes & plan & execute the shopping according to the plan and budget isn't appreciated AND in the way that the plan is so casually disregarded according to daily whim of the family (PHILLIP). "What's for dinner?" Meal according to plan. "Oh, I'll just make myself something." Or "Want me to just pick up food instead?" Translation - "Gross, fuck your food." -- TemerityJane

Putting things where they belong. We had a week of backpack hell before my boy decided to hang it on the hook himself when I quit. -- Tammy

Cleaning toilets. Especially with a boy. And a husband, if we're honest. -- Jessica

YESSS TO ALL OF THESE. What would you add to this list?


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by on Jul. 8, 2014 at 1:02 PM
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Noni2319
by Chrissy on Jul. 8, 2014 at 1:26 PM
Being the finder. I have to find everything.
LeapBaby123
by Kathleen on Jul. 8, 2014 at 2:28 PM
Paying the bills. My husband would end up evicted with no water, electricity, or cable if I wasn't here.
hayliedlr
by JoAnna on Jul. 8, 2014 at 4:33 PM

always being on time

Thelmama
by Thelma on Jul. 8, 2014 at 5:53 PM

Taking care of your family during a horrid migraine.

Thelmama
by Thelma on Jul. 8, 2014 at 5:54 PM

Helping kids with projects galore even when it involves tedious little tasks

Thelmama
by Thelma on Jul. 8, 2014 at 5:55 PM

Dealing with your heart walking around outside your body,captured up in little hands, feet, sticky faces, smiles and giggles.

143myboys9496
by Suzzanne on Jul. 8, 2014 at 9:34 PM

 Being there when asked, even when it means cancelling an appt to be there.

143myboys9496
by Suzzanne on Jul. 8, 2014 at 9:36 PM

 Wait until those stick faces, smiles, little hands and feet turn into big feet, hands bigger than yours. Razor stubble faces and smiles. And giggle that sound like your husband's. Oh and your heart isn't walking around, it's driving! LOL

Quoting Thelmama:

Dealing with your heart walking around outside your body,captured up in little hands, feet, sticky faces, smiles and giggles.

 

cjsmom1
by Silver Member on Jul. 9, 2014 at 1:57 AM

That the bills are paid

mysticalmalissa
by Bronze Member on Jul. 10, 2014 at 5:50 AM

That would be me too.

I even have to keep inventory of my husbands wood shop so he knows where every carving tool is.

Quoting Noni2319: Being the finder. I have to find everything.


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