Sometimes, as moms, we have moments we wish we could hold on to forever -- the first time our baby smiles, the first time he laughs from the belly. Parenthood
is full of these seconds that seem so monumental, but pass by so
quickly, we can barely hold on. And those are just the obvious ones.
One minute our drooling infant poops in a diaper, the next they are off to kindergarten, and then 10 minutes later, they are in college. It all happens so fast it would be easy to miss it all. But we won't let you!
This back to school time is a time of transition, and for many
parents, it's a time of bittersweet reflection. Here is a list of 15
little/big moments that made us realize our babies were growing up
before our eyes:
- First "Mom": There comes a day when every mommy
becomes mom. It's a happy/sad day. Because in that moment, we are proud
of our beautiful big kid -- we made that! -- but we also know we won't
ever hear him or her say "mommy" or "mama" again.
- Not wanting to hold hands: There comes a moment in
every kid's life where holding hands with MOM is just not cool. My
daughter is almost 6 and we aren't there yet (thank goodness), but I can
feel it coming like a summer thunderstorm -- no rain yet, but I can
smell it in the air.
- First day of kindergarten: This one is a doozy. I
knew this one would be hard, sure. I don't think I knew HOW hard. I
started freaking out about this last year, people! For 12 months, I have
been crying every time I think about it. Now she starts on Monday and I
am seriously questioning my ability to keep my emotions in check. Hope I
don't humiliate her!
- Lost teeth: For some reason, the idea of my baby
losing her little baby teeth is throwing me through a loop. I watched
her grow them! They can't be gone! Just another sign my baby girl is
becoming my big one ...
- Big kid sizes: When your little one moves on from
the 5T size and into the big kid shoe sizes, it can be a little
alarming. All of a sudden, that little body you once put newborn onesies
on is big and strong and shopping in the kids' section. Sob.
- Getting rid of baby things: Sifting through those
old things is just painful. We are in the midst of moving to the NYC
area, and even though both of my children are big, I couldn't bear to
part with their swaddling blankets and my Ergo carrier and many other
things I simply no longer need but can't give away.
- Picking their own Halloween costume: My kids
started this for the first time this year. It's my favorite holiday, and
even though I know they need autonomy, it also made me cry.
- First time they are embarrassed of you: This is
like the holding hand thing. Right now, I could dance down the aisle of
Whole Foods and both my kids would smile. I know how fleeting that is.
- Moving for the first time: We are in the midst of
this right now and to say it's hard on the kids is a massive
understatement. My poor babies are broken hearted to leave our condo
even though it's teeny and totally inappropriate for our needs.
- Bye-bye bathroom stool: One day your baby is big
enough to look in the bathroom mirror and brush his teeth without a
stool and without his mama holding him. It's a sad day. Bring on the
- When they learn to "pump": The first time my
daughter pumped herself on the swings without needing a push, both my
husband and I teared up. It was both exciting to see her coordination
and independence and also so, so sad that she would never sit in a baby
- Drop-off birthday parties: Only big kids go to drop-off parties by themselves. Don't cry too much, mom!
- Getting rid of old board books: How many times did
you sit with your baby in your lap, reading those colorful board books?
How many times did she gum the outside and tear up the "pages" while
cutting teeth? They are too old for those books now. Even if they aren't
reading themselves, they have graduated on to bigger and better. But oh
how sad it makes us parents ...
- Wanting to brush her own hair: This one was a big
one with my daughter. I loved the long minutes I would spend working on
her hair. Now she would rather do it herself.
- Not wanting me to hold him anymore: My son loved to
be carried everywhere for the first 3+ years of his life. Now he wants
to walk. My arms are happy, but my heart? Not so much.
What were your little/big moments?
on Sep. 7, 2012 at 2:27 PM