I find it hard to make necessary repairs on the house or Drs appts we need b/c of barely getting by financially. BUT i remember another poster in another group who would come online and remind us to pamper ourselves in some way every day. I hope everyone has a good, long weekend and finds joy in some aspect of their lives. I have playdate plans and a reunion among old friends on FB set up. We are making mutually agreed upon plans with the kids dad twd the end of the weekend. We have ice skating set up, too, at an open rink. I am going to take care of my surroundings and make the house all cozy and....just keep on truckin. Im gonna see how proactive I can be and what all I can accomplish. Sometimes i just take-- a walk and bask in the cool, fresh air -- i love the peacefulness. and then I feel like I am exactly where i should be. its the greatest feeling ever...and so important to live in the moment!!! If i worried about everything, even in the present, i would have a nervous breakdown. i let my stbx's stuff be HIS. i only own what is mine to. and i allow myself to be happy. the kids learn that too.