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Is this entrapment?

Posted by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 1:19 PM
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I went to a park with my dd and ds. I wasnt feeling up to it, but i felt it wasnt fair to them not to go. They we both excited about going. When we were walking to the car, I saw a police car. I dont have plates or insurance. I cant afford them. I usually dont go out becausse of this. I use the car for emergencies only. But we all get tired of being like prisoners in the house.
So we left and the cop followes me, stopped me and gave two tickets. I cried and begged him for mercy and he said, everybody is in the same boat. I told him, that doesnt help me out in any way. Im still homeless, no money and with kids to feed. I showed him my ebt card. Nothing! He didnt care. Then he said what if i kill somebody! I said, thats a big what if!! I could say what if you kill somebody too!!

W left crying, my dd felt it was her fault! Baby fell asleep and he is clueless! I told my dd it isnt her fault! Not to worry! If anything is my xh fault snd his family for being so greedy!!

Im uper angry right now! I feel so powerless!!
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Akeso
by Bronze Member on Apr. 25, 2012 at 2:20 PM
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Man that is one heartless cop. It's the system though too. They are robots. So sorry for you :-(

flika
by Bronze Member on Apr. 25, 2012 at 2:29 PM
Quoting Akeso:

Man that is one heartless cop. It's the system though too. They are robots. So sorry for you :-(




Thank you! I cant stand this, he could have said go with a warning instead. It is first offense!! What a jerk!
Akeso
by Bronze Member on Apr. 25, 2012 at 2:33 PM

Yes well from what I've been reading about the courts, the kind of porn I've seen, how I was treated while I had a kid in a stroller and when breastfeeding, and how I've been treated in the workplace, most men seem to be real women-haters. WT...? Like I keep saying, what did we ever do to them?

Akeso
by Bronze Member on Apr. 25, 2012 at 2:33 PM
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That or he's got a quota to fill by the end of the month!

flika
by Bronze Member on Apr. 25, 2012 at 2:57 PM
Quoting Akeso:

Yes well from what I've been reading about the courts, the kind of porn I've seen, how I was treated while I had a kid in a stroller and when breastfeeding, and how I've been treated in the workplace, most men seem to be real women-haters. WT...? Like I keep saying, what did we ever do to them?




What e did for them, was birth them!
flika
by Bronze Member on Apr. 25, 2012 at 2:58 PM
Quoting Akeso:

That or he's got a quota to fill by the end of the month!




Thats exactly what i told my dd, he has to fill the quota! Ugh!! Them men! They abuse their power!! I hate cops!
sllytnkrbl
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 8:02 PM
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 I understand your predicament I do and I wish you hadn't had to deal with it but honestly it isn't entrapment, he did not lead you out.   He was doing his job, accidents happen, if you do get into one with your children with no insurance and no plates not only would you be liable for your own damage but the mere fact you are driving illegally in some states puts you automatically at fault meaning you would be liable for others as well, then where would you be?  I do understand you are upset but he did what he's supposed to do.   You could lose your license all together.  I know you meant no harm but you are not the only person in your situation and he has probably encountered it before, it doesn't mean he's heartless - he could actually be doing you a favor, here your car would have been towed and impounded and your license suspended plus the fines.   You really shouldn't be calling him any names or saying he abuses his power when he is following the law, despite your circumstances you did something illegal.   I understand why you did it and in the same situation I probably would do it also but I would take my punishment because I know the consequences of my decisions and actions.    I hope things turn around for you but blaming someone who has nothing to do with your misfortune for adding to it is not going to help you.

Akeso
by Bronze Member on Apr. 26, 2012 at 6:17 AM
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I think there's an obsession with crime and punishment in the US and increasingly in Canada, and I don't believe that so many rules and regulations are necessary. They're most likely put in place by people who need to justify their time at work or parliament, have vested interests...(insurance)... I understand you need to obey the law and accept the consequences, but sometimes, people can just be *&%ts and go looking for people "breaking" a precious law. The laws are enacted to increase our humanity not the other way around. (And that's my philosophical rant for the day! ha ha!). Flika I hope the cost didn't set you back too far.  

KCayea
by on Apr. 26, 2012 at 8:10 AM
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i think the fact that you blamed your XH for you doing something you knew was illegal was wrong. you should never say such things to a child even if it had been his fault. he could have impounded your car and left you stranded with your children and he didn't.  and why would he honestly care about your problems? everyone who gets pulled over says the same sob stories. most of them lie. i got pulled over for running a red light. i looked rite at that cop and said well i didn't think i could stop i didnt see it turn while i was under it. he said ok. he could have given me 3 tickets lol one for red light. 1 for not having proof of ins on me and not having proof of registration on me. (my car is both insured and registerd but i forgot to put it in my car). and he let me go, because i was calm, polite, and honest. mostly cops will do that if your polite. i know alot of cops because my sister is one most of them say that same thing. be polite and calm and dont start the pitty party. its annoying  If i would have gotten those tickets i would have accepted my punishment as MY fault because I failed to Stop at a light, and I Failed to keep my papers in my car. And i didnt get let go because of my sister. we live in diffrent states now.

flika
by Bronze Member on Apr. 26, 2012 at 8:34 AM
Quoting KCayea:

i think the fact that you blamed your XH for you doing something you knew was illegal was wrong. you should never say such things to a child even if it had been his fault. he could have impounded your car and left you stranded with your children and he didn't.  and why would he honestly care about your problems? everyone who gets pulled over says the same sob stories. most of them lie. i got pulled over for running a red light. i looked rite at that cop and said well i didn't think i could stop i didnt see it turn while i was under it. he said ok. he could have given me 3 tickets lol one for red light. 1 for not having proof of ins on me and not having proof of registration on me. (my car is both insured and registerd but i forgot to put it in my car). and he let me go, because i was calm, polite, and honest. mostly cops will do that if your polite. i know alot of cops because my sister is one most of them say that same thing. be polite and calm and dont start the pitty party. its annoying  If i would have gotten those tickets i would have accepted my punishment as MY fault because I failed to Stop at a light, and I Failed to keep my papers in my car. And i didnt get let go because of my sister. we live in diffrent states now.




Who said.I wasn't calm? I was already crying before he even pull me over. I'm not just telling him a sob story. It is my story! In the past when I had money and a car and insurance, if I sped and got a ticket I always gave them all my information no problem. When asked why was I going so fast, I would aay because I like going fast, this car is so nice.it goes fast easily and I have a led foot. Always smiling. They would laugh. I disnt care getting a ticket. I would hire a lawyer and don't get points. I didn't want the ticket but I knew I was at fault. I never lied about speeding. Which was the only kind of tickets I got before and not often. I was learning not to go fast. The car I have now is a used 2001 Mazda, manual. I don't speed at all anymore. This car won't. I can't compare this car to my brand new merc I used to have. So yes, my ex is at fault because he stole from me. He left us on the street with no money, no cs, nothing. I was a sahm and I have been looking for a job and no luck yet. I have a baby and my teen ds knows all that we went.through. she saw dad getting high and injecting himself. She saw when we slept in hotels running from him. She saw when he shot his gun too and again ranaway...so it his fault!!!
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