Should I do drug test on him or try to avoid a high conflict divorce war?
This thing has been bothering me a lot, any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Long story short, my husband left about 8 months ago. I moved to my parent's house with my 1 year old son, and he stopped depositing any money in our joint account right away. He took all the business assets and didn't give us any child support. I found out I was pregnant with our second child after I moved to my parent's house. I told him about the baby, but he never cared or called to check on us.
My husband is a chronic pot smoker and he drinks daily. I have been thinking to order drug test on him in order to reduce his visitation (I live in Texas and I really dont' want him to have standard visitation). His mother and her sisters have been really mean to me every since I was married to that family. I can't stand the thought of my sons spending time with them. Especially nobody ever called to check on me or my kids since he filed the divorce. They don't even care whether I'm having a boy or a girl this time.
My lawyer said if I order drug test on him, it's going to be a divorce war. if he's tested positive, he'll have supervised visitation and more than likely he'll keep bringing me back to court until he gets standard visitation. It'll be a lot of money and we'll need to go through trials.
I don't know what to do. Is it better for my sons to have their father and let them spend time with him and his family? Should I just not do the drug test on my husband, and just let him have the standard visitation?
Just thinking about my sons will be away for a month in the summer, a week of thanksgiving, a week of christmas, a week of spring break, every other weekend.... it makes me sad already :(