I really don't know how people do this. Taking my kids and dropping them off to someone who has changed so much since we were married. I don't think I can do it!
That sucks :( A LOT. I am not looking forward to having to do that.....just try to keep in mind they really want to see their dad and they love him. And you can always hope as they get older they will see the light and choose to not go see him ;) GL mama
Hugs!!! I understand perfectly my kids had to start going there are weekends last month and that first weekend was unbearable. This week was suppose to be their first week to be spent there, but their dad cancelled so I have avoided the inevitable a little longer. What makes it even more impossible is that a divorce just became final a month ago and he married the mistress already so now that tramp is my kids stepmother I sure hope this doesnt turn out be a snow white story for my kids with the evil step mother. Good Luck to you I hope the time passes quickly for you.
the first drop off is the most painful ..... they get easier as time going on ..... I do have on suggestion don't let the EX or the kids see how much it upsets you ... have big smiles for them all , tell the kids you love them and they can call you whenever they need to ...... then go home get a big box of chocolate ( or ice cream ) and cry your eyes out ....
Yes. Thanks...I have been crying all night. Trying my hardest to be strong for them...put a smile on when they call...not see me upset.
I thought I could do it...but It hurts so much! From deep within my soul....and it is worse...that he does not even care that it hurts.Like there is no history...or that we do not share these beautiful children. And they should have full access to us both.
He told me tonight that he does not want me calling...even returning phone calls to the kids when they call. And that he is going to limit their Skype time/calling time, by telling them they cannot call me.When I know I get a phone call once a day...and they can call whenever they want to. Just becuase he does not call when they are here, does not mean I have to make that choice. Wondering if I should mail them a cell phone to keep on hand to use when they want to call me.
I am crushed...not sure what to do. Everything I try and do makes me miss them more, and trying new things is not the same without them. The things I find myself wanting to do, are things I would do with my kids...The divorce ruined my life...my career, my finances...all the above...and now I have to deal with this.
Sometimes it is too much. I have friends and family close, and a God that is holding me strong....but sometimes it is just too much. Tonight is one of those nights.
Finally!!!
- Commissioned
on Jun. 5, 2012 at 11:44 AM