xpost how do you deal with the thought of possibly being single forever?
ok i am tryign to seriously think of this in a positive way. I know I probably won't be single forever, BUT i DO want to be comfortable with the fact that I may be single forever. Its not due to abusive ex brainwashing me, etc..just how do you guys deal with that thought? how do you reach a place where are completly and totally happy with yourself and fine with being alone the rest of your life compared to being with some jerk? Again part of me is saying this from fear, but also reality too. I just want to be happy and alright with myself forever if need be. hope this makes sense. In other words I don't want to settle and would rather be by myself if that is the plan, but just can't seem to reach peace with it and not be in fear with it. I am not with my abuser anymore and posted this in another group. Heck I am thinking these thoughts, having these feelings and honestly don't want to even get married again at this point.
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