First off let me introduce myself. I have been divorced for over a year. I have three children and share 40/60 custody with my ex. My current drama comes from my fifteen old daughter. She is having issues with her stepmom. It all started when this stepmmom brought home new shampoo for my daughter to use while at their house (stepmom and dad) The shampoo was used by her 19 year old daughter. This daughter is away at college. My daughter says she said thank you but she preferred to use her usual shampoo. Then last weekend this woman wanted my daughter to blow dry her hair every evening she is at her dad's house. My daughter's hair was extremely dry the next morning when I saw her. In addition, my daughter likes having her hair highlighted (it looks really nice and she feels good about it) and this woman constantly tells her that she shouldn't dye her hair. My daughter has come home two weekends in a row with tears. I feel that she needs to sit down with both her father and stepmom and talk with them. It needs to come from her that she is not happy. She reports that if she says anything she is accused of having attittude and sassying. Just don't know what is crossing the line. Should I say something , sit down with her dad and her and have a talk.