So I filed for divorce last june. So far stbx hasn't looked very good infront of the judge (pointless motions and dragging out the case) Last week we (laywer and I) filed to use child support services b/c he's been having issues paying his cs on time and in full. At the same hearing for the motion (which was granted) stbx's lawyer dropped him due to lack of communication and payment. So he's currently without a lawyer. My lawyer is suppose to be turning in our mda and parenting plan this week. we haven't done mediation yet, that's the next step.
here's the deal... stbx refuses to sign anything other than 50/50 custody only valid until ds's 4th birthday (18months old now) and Zero child support.
we are drafting every other weekend, and child support of 560. which is the agreed temp order in place now. That has been in place since last aug.
I also happen to be 19 weeks pregnant, and it's not his. he still hasn't figured out that I'm pregnant, and I should probably tell him soon.
also, we live in different states - he once told me that his lawyer said that there was no way he'd get 50/50 as long as I'm south of the state line. He"s tried offering to pay my rent and bills if I'd move back up to the same county. he doesn't have a case. drug charge at 18. many text messages that are just awful. refusing to bring ds back from visitation (which lost him custody completely once for about a month and a half) him admiting to smoking pot, and him taking ds out with him past midnight to a friends house to drink and refusing to let me come pick ds up or know where he was (while we were still together)
so what would you do? sign the 50/50 and go back to court in 2 years. or follow through with mediation and see where it heads? He's made it very clear if I don't agree to 50/50 this will go on as long as he can make it