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Got updated on xh's life...

Posted by on Apr. 9, 2013 at 12:35 PM
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....and wish I hadn't been told anything!  Apparently, he's got 2 more kids (we've been divorced since December and seperated for about a year and a half...so one was concieved while we were together), got custody of his older son (because the "monster b*tch of a stepmom is gone-his first xw's words) and is now getting custody of his youngest brother.  All because I'm gone.  Because I was obviously so awful, ya know, making him get up off his ass and do things, making him take his older son places, and buying healthy groceries instead of the stuff he wanted.....UGH.  He got laid off and is searching for work, and as a felon with no training that might be difficult, so that's something. 

I wish I wasn't informed of this!  Gah!  I can't even sleep at night since I found out.  All I ever wanted was to be a good wife, have my stepson, my son, plus some more.  But he gets what I want, and I'm stuck here, alone, every evening wondering why I have to suffer.


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queensweet
by on Apr. 9, 2013 at 12:49 PM
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Hugs. I understand where you are coming from. It is normal to feel emotions of pain, sadness, guilt, anger and guilt because you are going thru the grieving process. Try to put those negative feelings into motivating you to do positive things in your life. Also look at him leaving as God removing the bad man blocking the good man that is soon to come into your life. You will get through this. It will take you to deal with this one second at a time
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by on Apr. 9, 2013 at 2:34 PM

I sometimes feel emotions of pain.  What could have should have been.  I was living in deep depression when I first divorced my ex.  Then I found out he was into porn which lead him to have an affair.  After all those yrs of marriage (26) I have come to the very hard conclusion and acceptance that my ex was hiding a lot of emotional problems.  He lied, cheated and stole not only materialistic things from me and money but 26 yrs of my life.  I had to accept the fact that it was also my fault for not leaving him when I had the many chances to (when our money problems were purely HIS problems) years ago.  I should get a medal for what I went through (pure hell) being married to my ex.  I really should thank the tramp for pulling him out of my life.  IF I was still married to him I would be married to a monster.  I no longer have that problem.  SHE does.  However, once I get through the court battle coming up I hope (and pray) that this is the last time I have to ever have any dealings with the douche bag.  He's evil personified.

Like me, think how much better your life will be once you get that divorce.  Life will get better for you.  I promise.

Ecoseem
by on Apr. 11, 2013 at 6:53 PM

Thanks

I know I'm better off.  I no longer have to walk around in shame because of the piece of trash I lived with.  I just am honestly so jealous because I loved my stepson, wanted more kids, tried for more kids.....then I leave and all of the sudden he's seen as this great guy cuz he's got his kids....and I'm like, WTF, ya know?

Akeso
by Bronze Member on Apr. 12, 2013 at 4:36 AM

Life is not fair. I thought that truth didn't apply to me either. Just accept it as much as you can and move ahead on your own life road.

tottaxi
by Battle Weary on Apr. 12, 2013 at 7:33 AM

He may have the IMAGE of this great guy, but you know what a pos he truly is and what a horrible role model he will make for those children.  My ex is trying to spin his image as a wonderful father, a Christian man, when the truth is that he is a negligent father with poor parenting skills and his Christian ethic is due to his forced participation in AA in order to get his license back.  We know the truth about our exes.  And you can bet that the woman in your ex's life is getting a pretty good idea of who he REALLY is.  Appearances are nothing.  The TRUTH is all that matters.  And boy do we all know the truth about their true character!!!

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