Just a week ago, my dh of almost 6 years (anniversary is may 25) told me he wants a divorce; said he loves me, but isn't in love with me. He said he is still attracted to me, loves me, and is best friends, but claims we aren't compatible. I thought we were good. I thought we were great. Sex was good. We got along. We like each other's company. I was completely blindsided. I've gone through many emotions. It's been a roller coaster of a week. I've lost 11 lbs and cried way too much. I read a book in 2 days that taught me to have self-respect and to stand up for myself. See, he has always been sweet and kind and seemed to adore me. Since he laid this on me, he has been mean and hateful and cruel. So yesterday was the first day I didn't cry in front of him. It was very difficult. He tried so hard to get a rise out of me. I wouldn't back down. Now today he has taken his ring off. To me, if we are legally still married, the ring should be on. I am not taking mine off. Today he is out looking for a house to rent. He opened a po box and a new checking account. I am so broken. My heart aches so much. I made a commitment and so did he. Love isn't a feeling; it's a commitment. I really think he and I can work it out if he gave it a chance. He is so adamant about leaving. I managed to get him to agree to go to 1 counseling session with me and it is tomorrow morning. Im so nervous and scared. I really hope he changes his mind. Still holding out hope!
on Apr. 26, 2013 at 3:48 PM