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Pornography addiction

Posted by on Jul. 16, 2013 at 9:00 AM
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I just posted in regards to a research paper for school but this post is solely for my use.   Is pornography addiction and all that goes along with it substantial enough to divorce over.  I have dealt with his porn interest for many years.  We have been married 16 years and together 20 years.  Over the past 16 months I have found numerous dating sites of which he is a member.  I asked him to end these memberships and go into counseling for the porn addiction.  He has refused.  He has also been receiving naked pictures in his text messages that he claims are from his friends(of their wives).  The porn mags and movies I could somewhat handle.  I feel that the other is infidelity.  Does anyone have any legal (or otherwise) experience with this?

by on Jul. 16, 2013 at 9:00 AM
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by Member on Jul. 17, 2013 at 1:13 PM
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No sorry.  I knew my stbx was looking at porn non stop, even when the kids and I were in the next room - I called him out on it, he admitted it and said he would stop but he didn't.  Among many other things he constantly lied about so I left.

Maybe someone else has advice...Good luck!  Here's a bump!

by on Jul. 18, 2013 at 7:02 AM

 My Ex husband was addicted to porn.  URG!!  I hate porn!!

Anyway,  while I was married, I was a member of a group for women whose husbands were addicted to porn.  I forget the name of the group.. just search porn in the group search.  They should have answers for your questions.

Good Luck

by on Jul. 18, 2013 at 5:06 PM

My ex was also into porn.  I didn't find out about it until after we divorced.  I found numerous magazines shoved down into several file folders in his home office drawer and I found several opened condom wrappers shoved behind a cradenza.  Just knowing he was into porn while our daughter and I were sleeping down the hallway makes my skin crawl.  He's now married to his tramp whom he got pregnant. 

I wish I could give you advice on his horrible addiction.  It hurts when you find out.  You feel betrayed beyond belief.

by on Jul. 19, 2013 at 3:16 PM

Its one thing to have porn mags, go on sites and maybe see them with your other. To be part of sites like that, that's where things are NOT ok. For real why would you be in a committed relationship, sign up for a dating type of hook up whatever site. An think that's ok? That right there is addiction, or something else. Talk to him, and if things dont change tell him he needs to seek help. 

My now XDH would go on sites, me not knowing and that's the bad part. I don't mind porn, I watched it with him at times yet with him I felt like he was wanting them vs me. I liked it, yet with him I felt uncomfortable. He would have emails from females he knew, that were part of his fish board. One sent him some risky pics of her as a stripper, in a outfit that was see through or something WOW ok. Another was a chest shot of someone in a see through shirt, I came acrossed it trying to find a bill online. An I was heart broken, he denyed it and through the you were spying on me card. I wasn't actually, AFTER that I did make a point when I saw he was distant. See what he was doing, and sure as crap he was on stuff like that. Made me feel worthless, he ended us ironically on he wasn't happy. We were toxic together I do agree, yet he stopped trying and made his own world which I wasn't part of. I raised our three children alone felt like, he was there when he felt like it and of course the kids adored him no matter what time. They knew I was the go to parent, and he was the eh where's daddy. 

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