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Emotionally preparing yourself..

Posted by on Oct. 22, 2016 at 4:45 PM
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How does one go about "emotionally preparing" to leave a narcissist?  

by on Oct. 22, 2016 at 4:45 PM
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by Battle Weary on Oct. 22, 2016 at 6:37 PM
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I don't really understand the question.  I guess having divorced a narc myself I would advise you to cover your ass financially because once you tell him you are filing for divorce he will empty all bank accounts and do his best to destroy you.

Emotionally, though?  Be prepared for him to play a lot of head games, do a lot of gas lighting, he will paint himself as the victim and he will try to turn everyone against you.

Fayanne
by Bronze Member on Oct. 23, 2016 at 9:50 AM
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shore up your defenses. Rally your support team - family, friends, faith, and be prepared for it to get worse before it gets better.

Get a counselor or therapist if you can afford one.

Get all of your financials together, including a copy of your credit file.

Plan out what your living situation will be.

Meet with a lawyer, choose your lawyer, and have him/her help you with as much as possible before actually filing your papers.

Be prepared for the shit to hit the fan. Have a clear end goal in sight, including what you are willing to give up or compromise on, and what you won't.

Then... head down and plow through.

It won't last forever. But it may last for a really long time.  Good luck.

                   
    Life is divine chaos
Embrace it.  Forgive  yourself.   Breathe
           And enjoy the ride....   

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