oh ya.... the BM in my situation would have rather paid to have him babysat then to allow any extra time.
Quoting HeatherSumowski:Yeah...and it goes the other way too. If DH doesn't do what BM wants she will refuse visitation for DH.
One time when we were NCP we thought it would be a good idea to ask (beg) for time that she was sleeping (she works nights) to take them to a special event at the zoo. We learned from that one event to never, ever deviate from the CO. Ever.
bwah ahahahahahahahah....extra time is a joke and why ask for it? BM would go as far as to having DH's sister/mom watch SS12, when he was younger, when she could not find a babysitter instead of calling DH to see if he wanted to have extra time.
Funny thing though, since she has remarried and has a baby, she has pushed SS12 off on us more and more.
It's a control thing to some people.
I've never dealt with it either, but I know some that have. Our states parenting guidelines address alot of what was mentioned here. Here's one thing you might try. -3. Opportunity for Additional Parenting Time. When it becomes necessary that a child be cared for by a person other than a parent or a family member, the parent needing the child care shall first offer the other parent the opportunity for additional parenting time. The other parent is under no obligation to provide the child care. If the other parent elects to provide this care, it shall be done at no cost. I know this can involve calling a lawyer and can be a big pain in the ass. But it's an option. Check your states guidelines
Wait are you telling me that the kids are with the sisters instead of the father????
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