DH got a letter today from BM. It says that SD, who is 6, won't be available for DH's time Wednesday from 4pm until Friday 10am, because they are "burying" BM's mom. DH is frustrated with this. For starters, BM's mom has been dead for 4 years. SD was 2 and didn't even know her grandma. They are just getting around to spreading her ashes. Second, BM has had SD for just about the entire summer, because she didn't give us extended parenting time. We are going through a custody case now, and the temporary orders didn't spell out summer time. So DH has had regular eow and eo wed/thurs. Plenty of time for BM's family to do something without cutting into DH's time. Third, we get notification the day before the visit is refused. She saw us on Sun, if she'd told DH then, he might have been able to work out an alternate visit time. Fourth, this is our last time with her before school starts again. And last but not least, BM has been disregarding the orders for the past year. Constantly taking SD to dr. appts, removing herfrom school, moving, making out of state trips, all without notifying DH until either the last second, or until the event is over.
DH told BM no. He said SD needs to be there. He told her that he is tired of her doing whatever she wants. That they need to stick to the CO.
Do you think this is unreasonable of him? I realize this is SD's grandma, but they didn't have a relationship, and wouldn't even if grandma had lived. BM doesn't get along with her family. Most would literally rather beat the crap out of her than talk to her. They prefer my DH and are actually going to be testifying against her at the upcoming trial.