My name is Victoria I'm 29, BF is 31 and has two kids. Joseph 9 will be 10 in Nov. & Lillie 6 will be 7 in September, and I have one Vivian just turned 8 in July.
Our anniversary is on Dec,20th, we will have been together for 5 years. BM asked BF for a divorce in Sept. 2006, a month before me & BF met. She had cheated on him, he caught her, but stayed with her. SHE decided she didn't want to be his wife anymore, and filed for divorce. He was just living his life when I came along. I fell in love instantly! The first night we hung out I felt like I knew him for years! Our connection was undeniable! Everyone who was around us, felt it too.
We started dating, and she instantly did not like me. He loved hickeys (don't ask me why, I hate them!), so he would ask for them, and she would yell at him, why he had hickeys and for me not to that, cause she felt disrespected. She called him over to her house before we were "together" and she asked him to cancel the divorce and just to have everything the way it was (she was having trouble being on her own). He told her no that He wanted to be with me, that their marriage was over years ago, and they couldn't stand each other, and it's not good for their kids. So our (me & BM) relationship was a no go from the beginning. The first two years were the hardest! She got a BF about a year after me & BF had been together. She got a little better when she got a BF. BM's BF has two little girls too, so now SHE had to deal with a BM.
I can go on & on of incidents, and issues we've had with each other, but when it comes down to it the bottom line is I am in love with a man who has kids with another woman, and there will be drama from the BM as long as I stay with her EX, and I will have to deal with it as long as I stay! I chose to stay and deal with it, purely for the love of my BF and the family we have created. Our kid's fight like any other siblings do, they say mean stuff to each other, but they also love each other, and protect each other. I just do my best to keep her drama out of our home! Her drama is just that HERS!
Ask me anything!
I'm really happy to be here with other smoms! I understand all the issues that come with being a stepmom even though I'm technically not one.