I asked this in another thread... another poster brought it up as well.
If mom is involved, doing her thing, taking care of her kids... why is it seen as if she is controlling if she doesn't want the SMs help? Isn't that the ideal parent? Someone who does take care of their children instead of having someone else do it?
I get that we all need help at some point, but if mom says "I got this" and only asks for help from people she wants help from when she needs it, (but never SM) is that a bad thing really?
To put it another way... My oldest is 10. I've done pretty much everything for her and her brother for the last ten years. My ex helped out when he felt like it. If he felt like it. Why SHOULD I take help from someone I don't want help from, need help from? Pretend my ex found someone nice and isn't who is with now... why should I care if they feel they need to help me out? What would be the point in me not doing what I've been doing for years now so that another woman can jump in somewhere?