Hi, my name is Karen, and I just joined your group. I've been seeking help in an area I've never ventured into before with my step-daughter.
A is a great young woman (she turned 18 this year). I've known her all her life, as I've been friends with her dad for 20 years. We got together 11 years ago and married almost 9. A and her dad were always close, and the divorce was traumatic for all of them, but even through all that, A always wanted to be with dad even wanting to be with him more than her mom.
A graduated from high school then started community college in the same town we all live in, but she has since cut us completely out of her life. She dosn't return text or phone messages with me and rarely with her dad. She's came to see him once in 6 weeks, when she needed her oil changed. When she was here, she never gave the first hint that anything was wrong, but still the behavior continues.
Everyone tells us she's just spreading her wings, geting to know who she is, she'll come back, but none of this is helping to ease the pain. I don't know how to handle this. I want to be a bridge to draw them and me closer again, but how? Should I? We're heart broken.