I will start by telling you a little bit about my story... I have a 5 years old son from my ex-marriage and my husband has a 4 year old daughter from his ex-marriage too and now we have a 11 month old boy together. I sometimes feel that the guiltness of my husband for leaving her daughther and not seeing her every day can me more than to have a good relationship with the other 2 kids and myself..
For example I notice he is a more responsible father only when his daughter comes to stay with us for a weekend , he will care if they kids ate their meals or not , if they need a bath , etc.. but when his daughter is not at home then he never ask about those things etc etc.. and I have already told him that but he either denies it or he just says well.. maybe is because I dont see her as much as I do with the other kids etc..
So really , we have been together now 3 years and I have tried to explained to him that he needs to get rid of that guiltness to be able to move on and treat the 3 kids the same and make me feel also to me that he cares about the 3 kids the same way..It is very unconfortable for me..and I am really having a lot of patient.. He says that he loves all the kids the same way and that he is working on his guilt , but it has been 3 years.. so I don't know , how else to make him understand all this... or just leave him alone and I shouldn't care ... I don't know..
I needs advices... thank you!!!