Is it just me or do courts go easier on BM regarding CS than BFs? And what does it seem BMs feel like they shouldn't pay CS though they expect BF to?
(Dislaimer: I'm frustrated and irritated at the moment.)
When BM and DH first divorced, she got custody by default, and he was order to pay CS. The calculated amount was huge because he makes a good salary, and she wasn't working. Almost 2 years and 3 attorneys later, he had the evidence needed to win custody. Long story short, the kids were almost never with BM but were dumped on BM's parents, DH's parents, and DH so that she could party. In between boyfriends, BM was lived with her mom, so she did see the kids regularly. She contributed nothing, however, having effectively snorted every penny of CS up her nose. There's a fraud case in all this, but that's a topic for another day.
When DH got custody, BM was in rehab. Her CS was set at $100. A few months later, she got a decent job and has made just shy of $40k/yr for the past couple years. BM knows that DH has filed for a review, which will likely quadruple her CS. And she. is. PISSED!
That's the part that I find irritating. She is blowing up emails and phones whining about how she's just now on her feet, and he's mean to do this to her. Her support should have increased when she started working, so she has no grounds to complain on there. But she writes to DH, "You and Lisbeth make more money than I'll ever see. You're just greedy and trying to increase your income more. You don't deserve my money!" I find it interesting she mentions my income but neglects to consider her fiancee's income... and that she conveniently forgets CS goes to the kids, not us. But whatever.
I'm just in a grumbling mood today.