She did it again...the whore of a bio mom to my sweet step babies.
We have temp orders during the finalization of custody blah blah blah...one week on one week off (sucks for the babes cuz they live out of a backpack but she REFUSES to do it any other way). So...SO and BM dont get along AT ALL. Im the "middle man" so to speak. I go get the kids and drop them off. Well she has decided that since I dont do everything she wants and she dont get her way with me that I can no longer pick the kids up from school. Shes disrespectful and i told her not to be so she got mad. It makes her mad because Im super nice to her and shes such a stupid bitch!! I have rearranged my school and work schedule to pick these kids up and this bitch is just trying to make shit hard. SHES MAKING ME CRAZY!! I just needed to let out an AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!! before I exploded.
can she stop you from picking up the kids on your dhs days? i wouldnt think so.....
I think she can stop you. She can take you off the pick up list and he can put you back on.
You don't need to tell her anything. You don't need to talk to her. And some people react horribly to the kill 'em with kindness routine while others tend to ignore the person putting on the act.
Your schedule is not her problem. Does dad have clothes for them at his house? If so they don't need the backpack. If not, he's as much to blame for that as well.
if she removes you from the pick up list and he adds you back on, expect it to blow again.
i'd just back off and interact with the kids while they are at your house ONLY unless you want more drama
What happened that made her change her mind about you picking up the kids?
I know how frustrating it is put yourself out there for your DH's sake and for the sake of his kids and to only get sh** on from BM..
Move communications to email only between SO & BM. This allows you to help mediate, but behind the scenes.
If SO needs you to pick up from school & it's HIS day (as long as there isn't a ROFR in place) then simply go get them and don't say a word to BM. Stop going out of your way for her. Stop communicating with her... If he has joint custody (1/2 legal say) then he can give permission for his kids just as much as BM can.
Take a deep breath & look at the big picture. She can show her true colors to whomever she pleases, but you can remain calm and supportive to all involved and be the best role models to the kids by doing so... =)
I wouldn't communicate with her period. If it's dh's time, she can't stop you from picking them up. He needs to go and put you on the list and tell them she is not allowed to take you off.
Tell your SO to rearrange his own schedule and back out of it all completely.
I probably wouldn't want someone who considers me a whore or a bitch to pick up my kids from school either.
Quoting whatIknownow:I probably wouldn't want someone who considers me a whore or a bitch to pick up my kids from school either.
well, that means in your case that quite a few people would not be allowed to pick up your kids.
Quoting lilangilyn:
Quoting whatIknownow:I probably wouldn't want someone who considers me a whore or a bitch to pick up my kids from school either.
well, that means in your case that quite a few people would not be allowed to pick up your kids.
I don't understand what you mean. Are you saying I am a whore and a bitch?
That is not very nice.
OT:what's in your purse? :)
- dbush0584
on Feb. 7, 2012 at 11:48 AM