Does this seem right?

[Prayin4Serenity]

OK so I made a post a few weeks ago regarding bm having a hysterectomy. She wasn't going to be able to see and,apparently, talk on the phone with SD for "a while" (her words) Now I think I was being insensitive at first when I thought that she should still take her eowe visit despite the surgery. SD is 8 and self sufficient I thought, why can't she go visit for not even two whole days with her mother??? A lot of you opened my eyes to the fact that it is a major surgery and she would be doped up and it'd be better for SD to stay with us.
OK, I was willing to admit my insensitivity and harshness UNTIL I saw on Facebook a post from BM. It read:
"Supercross with my boo and girls this weekend!! Woo hook!!!" Attached was a picture of the tickets.

11 DAYS AFTER SURGERY! !!!!???? not to mention this weekend was supposed to be hers with SD.

She didn't even call for nearly 3 weeks because of this surgery yet 11 days after it she's attending supercross.

Am I the only one that finds this seriously fucked up???

I had to vent. This one really bothered me. Seeing as though the whole week before she gave DH and I loads and loads of crap about any and everything we were doing wrong.

[JustaSM231]

Seriously fucked up. That shows how much she cares about SD. Wow! She should win mother of the year

[angziety]

Sounds like our BM issue.. well, when we had to deal with her anyway.  She claimed she got into an accident once and had to go to Iowa City (which is where all the horrible accidents go when they can't do those types of surgeries around here) but it was just another way to get her out of taking care of SD.  She claimed she was bedridden but when we went to pick up some clothes, she was up and at the door and carried the huge TRASH BAG (didn't agree with her giving us a trash bag full of SD's clothes.. but I digress) to the door and handed it to DH.  SMH. 

When I first met BM, SD was dressed in rags that didn't fit but BM had her damn nails done!!  She also used DH's insurance for her medical bills when he didn't even carry that insurance anymore/had removed her from everything.  I could list many things she has done.. AND gotten away with because she is the MOTHER.  Until Casey Anthony, people didn't believe female psycho/sociopaths existed. 

Oh, and just before we got custody of SD, BM actually up and moved out of her damn house without telling us and faked her voice when DH called her work.  CRRAAAZZZYYY.

[Dana333810]

So.....She can attend a sporting event eleven days after surgery, but can't pick up her children? Sounds like a good candidate for MOY to me.

[MrsKrough]

Sounds like our bm but opposite. Right after my c section she still sent ss4 over to be in my care. Didn't care that I wasnt up to it with a new born too. Then when I was still recovering ss got really sick.bm was also getting over it. She wouldn't keep ss for me to avoid getting 2 week old dd sick. Because we said "things wouldn't change when DD was born. But yet my entire pregnancy I kept ss for her 6 days a week.

[chanizen]

It's messed up no doubt.... And she obviously chose super cross over her child .

My Take: she's not going to ever be responsible. Stop worrying about why she won't take sd, and just deal with sd's schedule.

And don't stalk her Facebook page. You already know she does this type of thing. Unless you have a pending court case, why bother?

Save yourself, momma. Why give her any power to bug you?

You deserve a good life. She is missing out on time with her child. Her loss. And if you need a break, will gma or mil or a babysitter provide it?

[lilangilyn]

It is frustrating but let go of it. I was one of the ones who couldn't figure out why she wouldn't take her child after a hysterectomy. I had one and it was truly no big deal. I was up the next day planting some flowers in the back yard. Sounds like it was no huge deal to her either.

But try to let go of it.

[SESmama]

Or maybe she decided that since she had already said she didn't think she would take her she decided not to go back and change it again? I don't know the history so I say this with a grain of salt.

[Prayin4Serenity]

Yeah I should know better than to let her get to me. But I'm pregnant and hormonal. LOL. Yep, that's my excuse and I'm sticking to it. I had a moment of weakness. I was bored and wanted to see if she was up to anything because I just thought it was strange she hadn't called or anything. Right before this surgery she was in a gung ho super mom mood. She does it from time to time, shows a lot of interest and acts holier than thou when it comes to SD. She's either really over the top or completely below the radar. I swear she leaves my head spinning and its frustrating. SD has really been trying my patience too. She's 8 going on 18 and is starting to get a monster tude on her. Totally normal stuff but sometimes I wish her mother would be more involved so I didn't have to be. I know, it's dumb. I have to accept it for what it is. I try!!! I guess I'm just frustrated with a whole array of things right now in my life. I'm trying to do my best. Be a good mother to my DS, be a good stepmom not overstepping and not totally blowing her off (I guess finding that happy medium ) and preparing for a new one!!!! I wish bm would step up to the plate and do HER job so I didn't have to. OK vent over. :-/

[E_is_4_Ethan]

Hopefully SD doesn't have facebook. How sad!!

[Prayin4Serenity]

No she's only 8. Funny thing is the info we're getting just keeps getting better. My husband is a police officer and had a fellow officer who works in the city where bm lives tell him that bm was arrested for public intoxication/disorderly conduct!!!!!!
Oops!!!!