Well we were going out to dinner last night as a family. The kids chose the place so we went. As we were walking up to the door my dh says "is that bms car?" I say" I dont know" & dh says "check". So I walk.around the back & sure enough its bms car cause it has sds name on it in a decal. I tell dh yup its her & he says lets go we will eat some where else.
Now I personally didnt care she was there but I said ok to make him feel better. But it got me thinking out of all the cars in the parking lot how the hell could he tell from the front? And more importantly why would he give a rats ass if she was there? It would have.been a chance to see sd & its not like we would have sat with her. Has this ever happened to you or why do you think he acted like this?
Maybe im making more of it than I should?
Quoting Rae706:
Sounds like you are worried about more than your dinner plans.
Quoting jmgarzamom:
Well its been a long raod with bm but she has finally chilled since having a new serious guy in her life. But dh has started acting wierd since the new guy came into the pic. I dont know I have my own insecuritys with my ex & cheating so it makes me over think things sometimes.
Quoting Rae706:
Sounds like you are worried about more than your dinner plans.
Eh, I know if I saw BM's car in the parking lot, I would go somewhere else too. That's because I do not want her to cause a scene like she tends to do out in public.
If I saw ex's car in the parking lot, we'd probably end up sitting with SM/DD/ex/his SD if we got there in time.
I am soooo on total different sides of the spectrum.
Quoting pepper504:Eh, I know if I saw BM's car in the parking lot, I would go somewhere else too. That's because I do not want her to cause a scene like she tends to do out in public.
If I saw ex's car in the parking lot, we'd probably end up sitting with SM/DD/ex/his SD if we got there in time.
I am soooo on total different sides of the spectrum.
Well as far as telling the car from the front, if it was one they had while married...men can do that...lol DH can tell BMs minivan from a mile away I think. I can too now for that matter. He may just not want to see SD having fun with BM and her new bf or he may not want to put SD in a weird situation if SD likes the new bf but doesnt want dad to know it yet...idk...just a thought.
Yes, we have chosen not to go into a place if BMs vehicle is outside. If she has the kids then she does not allow them to speak to their father "on her time" in public. He is welcome to call them but no in person contact according to her. If I take DD and SD with me to the store and BM sees us, SD will get yelled at for going somewhere with me. If we have the kids and she sees us, she goes the other way even if the kids are waving at her or calling to her. So we really do it so that the kids arent stuck in the middle of something. We try not to make a scene of it so they dont think thats the reason we arent going in somewhere. It has only happened a few times since the last episode and we were able to spot the vehicle before they did and find an excuse to stop somewhere else first or something.
Maybe he was in the mood to not see her. IDK. Next time it pops up, I'd definitely ask him what the big deal was.
Quoting jmgarzamom:
Well if it was my ex yea we would go some where else too. Just so dh isnt uncomfortable. But bm really has chilled out & I stopped letting her get under my skin for the most part. Dh never has had problems with seeing her till now. Hell idk maybe im just going crazy lol.
Quoting pepper504:Eh, I know if I saw BM's car in the parking lot, I would go somewhere else too. That's because I do not want her to cause a scene like she tends to do out in public.
If I saw ex's car in the parking lot, we'd probably end up sitting with SM/DD/ex/his SD if we got there in time.
I am soooo on total different sides of the spectrum.
Quoting pokey-pwa:Well as far as telling the car from the front, if it was one they had while married...men can do that...lol DH can tell BMs minivan from a mile away I think. I can too now for that matter. He may just not want to see SD having fun with BM and her new bf or he may not want to put SD in a weird situation if SD likes the new bf but doesnt want dad to know it yet...idk...just a thought.
Yes, we have chosen not to go into a place if BMs vehicle is outside. If she has the kids then she does not allow them to speak to their father "on her time" in public. He is welcome to call them but no in person contact according to her. If I take DD and SD with me to the store and BM sees us, SD will get yelled at for going somewhere with me. If we have the kids and she sees us, she goes the other way even if the kids are waving at her or calling to her. So we really do it so that the kids arent stuck in the middle of something. We try not to make a scene of it so they dont think thats the reason we arent going in somewhere. It has only happened a few times since the last episode and we were able to spot the vehicle before they did and find an excuse to stop somewhere else first or something.
OT:what's in your purse? :)
- jmgarzamom
on Feb. 13, 2012 at 4:50 PM