So BM when did you meet sm? What was your first impression of her? How do you feel about her now and what actions caused you to feel that way about her?
I met Sm at my daughters gymnastics. I was a bit taken back because my husband had only been dating her for a few weeks, but I was super nice. Really I was. She was nice. We all sat and chit chatted for an hour, and now I'm so happy because my daughter lucked out with her. She's a great Sm. I'm not a crazy BM:)
I haven't met BD's newest girl. She added me on facebook and seems nice? I dunno she has her hands full with her two lil ones who are the same age as my two little ones. Which on a strange side note BD has 2 the same age with EXSM.
DS met her last summer. Said she was nice, and she keeps an eye on her kids. (No I didn't ask that was how he described her.) I feel more comfortable now knowing DS's grandma and my and ex's mutual friends have met her and say she is an ok person.
I've never met my ex's wife face to face. We've spoken on the phone/email/facebook/yahoo messenger. In fact-she's never met my DD face to face either.
Her and i got along very well actually. We never EVER discussed my ex. It was always about DD and her diagnosis;s. Sm was going to school to become a special needs teacher and getting her degree in special education. We were able to help each other get thru a rough 2 years :)
And now that she left my ex-and she's moved on-I still think she's an awesome person. She's very driven and dedicated. No matter what happened between her and my ex-she was always positive. Never complained. Always was involved with furthering her education/career.
She's never given me a reason to dislike her or hate.
In hindsight, I feel for her. I was surrounded by good friends who all knew who she was and what they had done. She must have been really uncomfortable. I know a few were trying to make her uncomfortable. First night she met DDs also.
Crappy night.
I didn't meet her until after she moved in with my ex and my son. Would have been nice to know beforehand, but my son never had any complaints about her (he was old enough) so I didn't let it bother me. I was excited when they got married because it meant my ex would stop parading women thru my son's life. We've had a few blow ups, but for the most part we get along fine.
Never in 5 years. Well, never isn't quite correct, she went to a court hearing once. Since family courts are closed over here, I had her removed from the room, she waited for me afterwards and screamed in full view of everybody "Thank you for ruining my life" ... bit strong, coming from the other woman.
I turned around and left! So, I guess that was less than 15 seconds in 5 years.
Also never met BM ... but then, SD is 27, so no need to.
My daughter needed to ask her father something and she knew he wasn't going to answer his phone so we dropped by while running errands. He wasn't there, she was. She asked me why I divorced him and told me how she knew my husband and kids... it was a lie as my kids had never been involved in this particular daycare therefore my husband was never there. I let her finish her story and told her that was impossible.
So... first impression? Liar. I still think she is one to this day.
My daughter has a stepmother and I am a stepmom to my husband's three kids. Based on my experiences as the BM having to deal with an intrusive SM, I try to be very cognizant of how my SK's BM feels-especially when it comes to milestones like birthdays and school events. I don't really remember when I met BM, per se, but I remember she was very standoffish. Can't really fault here for that-it was probably a wierd situation all the way around. Things never really improved although I tried my best to make sure she was always included and that the kids always had something for her birthday/mother's day/easter/valentines' day...anyhow. I tried to help be supportive of that relationship between the BM and her kids. That didn't get me very far with her-to say the least. So...I can' be civil towards her and I still remind the kids to call her whenever possible. I don't want to be the kind of SM my daughter has ever. I will never forget the hurt I felt when my three year old daughter started calling this hateful woman "mom". I fully understand that while these kids are a part of my family-they're not mine. My role is to help raise them to be healthy and happy and loved. Period. Nowhere in that agreement is "you must become their mother".
wow...that was totally long and drawn out. Whew! Sorry about that.
she was uglier in person, in her pictures she tilted her head back, in person she had 4 chins.
she is my little angel she took a cheater and a liar off my hands, and she helped me get full custody, even though that wasn't her intention quite the opposite actually.
Hmmm I don't have any feelings for her ewwwww.
Quoting charliesangel23:
Spinoff of when you met BM.
So BM when did you meet sm? What was your first impression of her? How do you feel about her now and what actions caused you to feel that way about her?
OT:what's in your purse? :)
- charliesangel23
on Feb. 13, 2012 at 7:50 PM