I'm just wondering how you go about this. SO and I have three kids altogether and they're very close in age. Just recently, if I tell SS4 no on something or to go to something he doesn't way to do (like brush his teeth) he is on the verge of tears. When we're all in the house together (I have 50/50 with my ex) I am the primary caregiver. But if I disengage, then do I not keep him in our routine and leave it up to his dad? To what extent should I take this? Direct him to his father when he does something wrong?
I am much more routine oriented than SO and if SS isn't folded into the girls' routines, SO will let him pretty much do whatever he wants. This seems rather unfair to my DDs if they have to go to bed at 8pm and SO lets SS stay up until whenever.
Just wondering how others handle this. Thanks!!