when a BM calls the SM'S Spical Needs Son Stupid

[AmyGonzalez]

what do you do as a SM  when the BM calls your bio son with autism stupid

i ask this because i told the BM of my SS that she does not have to worry about him being treated different that i will love him and treat him just as i would my own son her response to me was

well that's the problem my son is not stupid so don't treat him like your son

so she called my son stupid when all i was trying to do was reassure her that i would never treat her son as an outsider

what would you do as a mom

[whatIknownow]

What do you do? nothing. 

If you have a problem getting along with your Ss's mother, you should try to avoid speaking to her. Then you won't have a problem anymore. 

My son has a condition on the spectrum and he has been called stupid, to his face. He is now in a Pharm D program at a prestigous university.  I do understand how it hurts to have your child called stupid. However, you have to let  it go. There are ignorant people out there. All you can do is avoid those people.

[kustomkidz]

Punch that bitch in her face! My SSs BM because my DS gets special attention because of his special needs.. SS gets treated the same as my other 2 kids, he is loved an adored and none of the kids are favored over another.

[sandeeyo]

What I'd want to do:  Beat BM senseless.

What I'd actually do: Tell her that calling anyone's child stupid is RUDE AND DISRESPECTFUL...disability or no disability.  TO HER FACE. 

My son is autistic.  Although socially he's kinda clueless, he's by no means stupid.  I'd want to kill her for a comment like that.

An ex boyfriend's sister told me that maybe I needed to have my son INSTITUTIONALIZED after he threw a tantrum in front of her (typical kid stuff...too much ice cream, he didn't want to listen, etc.)  Lost all respect for her after that ignorant comment.

[whatIknownow]

Quoting kustomkidz:

Punch that bitch in her face! 

and go directly to jail....

[sandeeyo]

Quoting whatIknownow:

 

Quoting kustomkidz:

Punch that bitch in her face! 

and go directly to jail....

Better to think it, not do it!

[AmyGonzalez]

this hurts me so much because my son is not your typical child with autism

he loves to be around children, he is the most kind hearted person i have ever met and he is only 8 years old

he would never think of hitting someone even if they hit him, he loved to cuddle and show love  hugs all the time

i remenber this one time when he was 3 years old some big kid puched him off the slide and he got hurt

and he walked up to the big kids and gave him a hug and said its ok i be ok then he came over to me and climbed into my lap and cryed and the other parents laught at hom

[SP_Mama]

You do nothing.  BM has called my son a bastard many times, but there's nothing we can do.  Chances are, saying anything to her will just make her say it more because she'll know it's getting to you.

[kustomkidz]

So maybe just envision punching her in the face...

(I would never actually hit anyone, but ohhhh how I want to sometimes!)

Quoting whatIknownow:

Quoting kustomkidz:

Punch that bitch in her face! 

and go directly to jail....

[AmyGonzalez]

its OK for BM to call my son stupid but when i tell her that her son has anger issues she says i am overstepping and its none of my business but he hits my kids and his half sister who is only 6 months old along with hitting, punching, kicking, tripping the kids in his class

[Chelliza1028]

I went off on her.. Simple as that. BM thought she had any place commenting on my child's developmental delay and she was quickly reminded of the boundaries she set regarding education.. You don't want me involved in your daughters education.. I will respect that! As a mother, I understand, but the bitch had no right to say a god damn thing about my son and was very promptly reminded of that