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SS4 is pooping his pants again. UGH

Posted by on Mar. 4, 2012 at 4:48 PM
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SS4 shit his pants this morning and showed me as I was getting the kids into the shower so they don't all smell like feet.  He is waiting for his dad to get home because I am DONE dealing with this crap.  SO tried to chew me out over the phone saying he doesn't feel like coming home and having to jump his ass and is mad that I haven't taken care of this.  Oh effing well!!!  I'm taking my daughters and going to the store when SO finally makes it home.  

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E_is_4_Ethan
by on Mar. 4, 2012 at 4:51 PM

you are mad because a 4yr old had an accident in his pants?

2AKBlondies
by on Mar. 4, 2012 at 5:02 PM

Nope.  It was pretty standard for SS to poop his pants, but he had been doing really well for the past few months.  I am mad because SO tried to yell at me because I am disengaging from all this.  And I am also mad because SO left for a game at 0700 and it is now 1:00 and he's still not home.  I have stuff I need to do and I am not doing it with a 4 yr old that has crap in his pants.

Tea4Tas
by on Mar. 4, 2012 at 5:06 PM
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If you don't want to clean up the kid, and your So isn't home, the solution isn't in leaving the kid to sit in crap. March him into the bathroom, have him remove his pants and dump the poop in the toilet and wipe (if necessary) He can put his undies and pants in a plastic bag for you-and then hop in the shower.

If he is old enough to poop in his pants because he wants to, he is old enough to clean himself up.

E_is_4_Ethan
by on Mar. 4, 2012 at 5:08 PM

throwing up

Quoting Tea4Tas:

If you don't want to clean up the kid, and your So isn't home, the solution isn't in leaving the kid to sit in crap. March him into the bathroom, have him remove his pants and dump the poop in the toilet and wipe (if necessary) He can put his undies and pants in a plastic bag for you-and then hop in the shower.

If he is old enough to poop in his pants because he wants to, he is old enough to clean himself up.


E_is_4_Ethan
by on Mar. 4, 2012 at 5:14 PM


Quoting 2AKBlondies:

Nope.  It was pretty standard for SS to poop his pants, but he had been doing really well for the past few months.  I am mad because SO tried to yell at me because I am disengaging from all this. If you are disengaging, then you shouldn't have let SO leave you with his son in the 1st place. However, since you did let him....the moment he walked out the door at 0700 he is your responsiblity. And I am also mad because SO left for a game at 0700 and it is now 1:00 and he's still not home.  I have stuff I need to do and I am not doing it with a 4 yr old that has crap in his pants. So, you are going to take it out on a 4yr old because SO has been gone to long?  NICE


G_mommy
by on Mar. 4, 2012 at 5:20 PM
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Quoting 2AKBlondies:

Nope.  It was pretty standard for SS to poop his pants, but he had been doing really well for the past few months.  I am mad because SO tried to yell at me because I am disengaging from all this.  And I am also mad because SO left for a game at 0700 and it is now 1:00 and he's still not home.  I have stuff I need to do and I am not doing it with a 4 yr old that has crap in his pants.

 I certainly hope you didn't leave the child in poopy pants all morning long?! If you have...you should be yelling at yourself.

mconnoll
by on Mar. 4, 2012 at 5:22 PM

 10 yo ss pooped his pants on a regurlar basis until about 2 months ago, he still has small accidents at times.  It is called encopresis.  It can be very common with children of divorced parents.  It is honestly not something your ss has control over.  We have SS seeng a psychologist, which has really helped.  It is important that your SS be encouraged to gain control of the situation.  There are GI specialist who can help your SS with the issue.  Maybe doe some research on the issue and help encourage your husband to help your SS.  There are many things you can do at home to help SS(regular toileting times are very helpful) Trust me...you don't want your SS pooping his pants at 10:) Maybe have SS put his dirty underware in the shower/tub and leave them there for your husband to clean.  SS 10 cleans his own underware when he poops them,  this was encouraged by the psychologist and Dr. to help put SS in control and responsibility.   We keep a small bottle of detergent in the bathroom and he knows the routine. The fact that your SS acknowledged he had an accident is a HUGE step.  SS wouldn't tell us and would sit in his poop for HOURS through school.  He would even deny having accidents when we could smell and see them.  I understand how extremely frustrating the pooping can be, lets face it...it is gross!  Just make sure to help SS with his problem the best that you can while remaining disengaged!  Leave the clean up for hubbie or SS!  Also, we keep wipes in the bathroom for SS to use, sometimes there bottoms get sore from the dried poop.  Good luck, hang in there:)

Stephie849
by on Mar. 4, 2012 at 5:26 PM
I make both my ss clean themselves if they poop they are to old for me to do it. one is 3 and the other will be 5 at the end of the month. They cry and throw fits and if they make a mess I the bathroom I make them clean that also.
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mconnoll
by on Mar. 4, 2012 at 5:33 PM

 

Quoting Stephie849:

I make both my ss clean themselves if they poop they are to old for me to do it. one is 3 and the other will be 5 at the end of the month. They cry and throw fits and if they make a mess I the bathroom I make them clean that also.

 10 yo SS used to throw fits and crys when he had to clean up his own mess too.  When he was younger(7 and 8) we were encouraged to have him take a shower and clean his underware after "accidents".  Now that he is older he knows the routine and can clean himself well enough with wipes. 

LivnSimply
by on Mar. 4, 2012 at 5:40 PM
If you are disengaging then you are upset.

If the 4 year has been doing really good for several months now, a single accident is hardly abnormal.

What's the real reason you are taking your frustrations out on the kid? Pissed your SO was out of the house in the first place? Trying to prove your point to him? He reacted and you are now more mad.

Please keep the kid out of it.
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