Hi. i'm new to the group. I have 2 kids, a daughter 14 and a son 12. Married my husband 2 years ago. he has 2 sons 14 and 16. Their BM RUNS THE SHOW!!! When they are here at my house (every other weekend and on wednesdays) they do not want to do any chores whatsoever. Dont want to clean up after themselves. I was told by the oldest 16 that when he comes over, he wants us to do 'fun' things like go to the mall or movies or out to eat, etc. and get this... OR ELSE they will not be coming here to visit their dad anymore. BM SUPPORTS THIS!!!! omg.. she is f*cking crazy! She has always babied them. She is teaching them to be slobs b/c someone ELSE will always be there to clean up after them. So now, she is keeping the kids away from my DH. He can't see them until he and i agree to those terms. Meanwhile DH wont stick up for himself or the COURT ORDER. He is so afraid of her and she RULES HIM! OMG! What is his problem?? And who do these DA kids thing they are??? Royalty? My kids have to clean up and do chores. GRRRR!!!! Please tell me how i can begin to respect my DH and his worthless kids!!!