How/When did you and your husband make your blended family official?
I'm curious as to the other stories of blended families on this forum. I don't have any friends who have been divorced and are dating a single dad, so it makes it difficult to get helpful feedback at times. My BF and I have been together for 13 months. Our lives have grown to be very blended, his triplet 7-year old girls have been very accepting of me (he has them every other week), even his ex has accepted me as being in the picture. But, I still have my own apartment (it's only 2 blocks from work so it's tough to think of giving up) and spend about half my time at his house.
The final step of moving in together and making this whole thing official still lingers. I'm more ready than he is, but it's taken me the last 13 months to adjust to being with the girls for more than a few hours at a time, because, well...they are a handful. :) And I do enjoy my space, I won't lie, and I know much of that will be sacrificed when we live together. But, I find myself more and more desiring of being together than being apart. The percentages have shifted over the past 13 months. At first it was like 80% liked being on my own, 20% wanted to be with him and the girls. Now, it's 80% of the time I want to be together with them but 20% of the time I'm glad I'm on my own.
My BF and I have discussed this. He is not ready to make that step, mostly due to his own doubts of the relationship turning into the marriage he had, feeling trapped, etc. And, I often wonder if I'm rushing things in my head, like thinking this is gonna be easier than it really is. But, I have no other stories or people to use as a guide. So, I would appreciate hearing your stories. Not so much advice, just to know how others have navigated these waters. They are not easy (I'm sure you know!) and I believe my BF and I both want the same thing and are on the edge of it, but we're both scared.
Thanks for sharing your stories with me.