My 2 step daughters acted horrible this past weekend. they are 9 and 14. threw food on the floor, lied about things, and refused to put their laundry away also spoke to me like a dog. My husband says he will handle it, nothing gets done. Its to the point when they are coming my 3 boys run off to my moms house because they dont want to be around them, i have to force myself to stay. What do i do?
but, i dont want to leave. I have a brand new home that is mine, i bought and paid myself . Even when I was picking the floor plan I took the girls into concideration, i made sure they had their personal space. I feel like it is not fair. I dont know if i should step in and enforce how things are suppose to be in my house?
DH is the problem in this situatuion. You can't be in a blended family with someone who refuses to support you... this is SOOOOOO common though. Have you been married long or are you new to this whole thing?
Quoting Crgroves1980:but, i dont want to leave. I have a brand new home that is mine, i bought and paid myself . Even when I was picking the floor plan I took the girls into concideration, i made sure they had their personal space. I feel like it is not fair. I dont know if i should step in and enforce how things are suppose to be in my house?
You bought it yourself? DH didn't help at all? If that's the case, then kick him out until he can control his kids.
If it's not the case, well, then you have a choice. You leave while they are there, or keep getting upset when you see them do things wrong. Without your DH backing you up though, the girls are unlikely to change and you'll just get more and more frustrated.
Quoting Crgroves1980:
but, i dont want to leave. I have a brand new home that is mine, i bought and paid myself . Even when I was picking the floor plan I took the girls into concideration, i made sure they had their personal space. I feel like it is not fair. I dont know if i should step in and enforce how things are suppose to be in my house?
I bought the house myself with a trust fund my father left for me. He works alot and makes good money. I work also, we both work from home. He definately contributes. The one and only issue is his 2 girls. he also has 2 grown children.
Im just not sure if i am expecting too much from the girls or if im too strict. I was raised by a single father who was a retired marine, I was in the army reserves, i have 3 boys that i raised by myself.
Are raising girls that difficult???? i dont ask much, but i definately dont ask twice. if my 6 year old can do what is asked the first time shouldnt a 9 and 14 yo be able to also? i asked for 3 things this last weekend and they did NONE! I asked them to vaccuume, they claim not to know how. I asked for laundry to be put away, its still sitting there, and o ya, please bathe and change your underwear. WHAT IS UP WITH THAT??? I figure my boys would be the ones wearing stinky drawers!! Am I wrong? Am I crazy? Im afraid at this point of just blowing up!
You aren't their parent. If you can't get along with them, then let your husband do all the parenting.
Maybe being ignored is disrespectful, but it's not really your place to do anything about it. It's your husbands. If he doesn't care or won't parent them, the only thing you can do is disengage from the situation.
2 year old actuaully called me a b***h
- Crgroves1980
on Apr. 16, 2012 at 2:49 PM