My SS turns 6 next month but this school year has been one thing after another. At first we thought he was trying to adjust to kindergarten but in this whole school year (started Aug 17th) he has had 3 happy face days, over 40 yellows, 9 blacks (worst offense sent to principals) and the rest reds next step up from yellow. We also have my DD who is in kinder but has a different teacher. She is exceling when we thought we would get the calls home for her. We have tried nemourous reward systems, sitting in his class, taking away all privliges for up to a week at a time. He throws massive fits at school ending up in him throwing his chair, or cursing. We as a family finaly got settled into a good routine, and reward/dislipine system last November and the other 3 children have adjusted well but he hasn't. His fits get worse and worse with me when his dad isn't home (luckly it isn't often since DH works at home) but Its becoming a distraction for everyone involved. he is in councling at school and outside of school. We are out of ideas and considering holding him back because his social skills lack so much. If he doesn't get his way he screams at anyone and usually the other kids will give into him just to shut him up. We have tried positive renenforcment, ignoring the tantrums, nothing has worked. DH is at his wits end and has reflected on how he has spent the last 5 years raising him compaired to me raising my DD's (which isn't a great comparison) but he relizes that he did spoil him to much, and that even at the preschool he went to for two years employed his aunt from his BM's side. He has always gotten his away for the last 4 years. but we have been a "family" since oct 10' wouldn't this have worked out a bit by now and not gotten worse? He isn't ADHD. If he would just sit down and listen he can do his work (he does have some good days at home) but if he doesn't want to and you want him to the world is going to blow up. He has said over and over he has no friends in his class but from my stance looking from what happens at home I know why. He is bossy and manulitive to everyone. His 9 year old brother is scared not to give into him because he screams at him or punches him. My DD and him (same age but a month older than SS) get into heated battles. He was the youngest and she is my eldest. She is just as strong willed and won't put up with him demanding things. I have had to break up fights that the 4 year old and 9 year old say he thew the first punch. He back talks a lot to my DD and that is one of her pet peevs. She has learned though to walk off, she will come inside and go in her room but he tries to follow her. DH and I are out of Ideas. BM isn't in the picture, my ex is and does help A LOT with all four of the kids. But we are running out of ideas. We know because of his disruption, and lack of will his grades have slipped severly but is this a good reason to hold him back. We have 3 weeks left in school, we have worked with the school since day one but there really is no other options at this point.