I had a cop I know pull BM's fiance criminal record and found out he has been arrested SIXTEEN times since 2008-2011 for charges from domestic violence to burglary, trespassing, drug possession and more. My DF told BM about his criminal history and that that SS could no longer stay with her and she can only visit SS in our city (they live a couple hours away) without her criminal fiancé. He is allowed nowhere near SS.
My question is this- SS is 10. Would you explain to him why he can't stay with his mom anymore or tell him he can't be around her fiancé or just avoid the conversation? DF's mother and I feel like SS is old enough to understand but my fiancé feels like telling him will not be good for his well being at his age. DF and I are going to talk more about it tonight and make a decision on we are going to do. What are your thoughts on this?