When 1 parent is always threatening to take you back to court, or always trying to get custody, I think tension is always high. It is really hard to find peace in that situation.
When we were always worried that BM Would ask for custody It was always high tension, we were always worried that anything we did or said would be used against us in court and that made it hard to get along with her and made parenting SD more stressful as well.
Once she finally did take us back to court to try and get custody, she basically tied her own noose and hung herself. Now that that threat isn't hanging over our heads things are easier and its a lot more peaceful. Once SHE accepted that she wouldn't get custody things got even better and we worked better as a team for SD.
So how much does court help or hurt you situation?