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We found porn

Posted by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 2:06 PM
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 Loooooong story short. I found porn sites on my stepdaughter's kindle fire. She's 11 turning 12! What do you do?

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by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 2:06 PM
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vintagebikegirl
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 2:09 PM
Take the kindle and Internet access. Period. No more. She lost the privlidges. Kids this age are curious so don't freak too much, but she is old enough to know better.
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evanne337
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 2:10 PM
Take it away
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Faeta
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 2:12 PM

talk to her about it? really, shes old enough to be "curious" about it all.  Has she done the sex ed class in school yet? maybe stuff was said that she has more questions over?

I wouldn't be to concerned about it.  My niece had a lot of questions that age, and I just answered them from my "ENABLE instructor" aspect... (I volunteered for the "Education now and babies later" program in my HS years).  

IMHO, its safer for her to get her curisoty fix on a computer, than to experiement with actual boys!!! But communication is what she needs the most of.

I don't know what sort of relationship she has with you, if it would be appropriate for you to talk about it with her. or if she'd be more comfortable with her mom, an aunt, who knows! but someone probably should chat with her about it.

QueenCreole313
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 2:13 PM
We are def gonna do that. Dh wants to spank her. I don't think that will do anything but then I don't know if taking everything will help either. I'm so pissed cuz her mom didn't disclose that she caught her too until after the fact! :-(
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KnowItAll
by Silver Member on Apr. 25, 2012 at 2:17 PM

Spanking for being curious is definitely not the answer and might end up with lasting negative effects that you don't want to have to deal with!  Talking is much more appropriate. 

Ms.Gwen
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 2:17 PM
Are there parental controls on the device? I agree with others that you should take the device for awhile, but I wouldn't return it if I couldn't solve the issue.
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jazzmonkey
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 2:17 PM
Get her in therapy. Seeing that stuff messes up a kids mind. Also don't they have filters for kindled? Sorry this happened to your family. Many people have different views on porn but research says it is bad in so many ways. Discuss your family views with her openly and honestly. Also let the other parent know what is going on. It is the right thing to do.
sandeeyo
by Le Bonjour Chat on Apr. 25, 2012 at 2:19 PM

Take it away for a set period of time and talk to her about it. 

andersongirl562
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 2:24 PM

 meh....it happens.  Have a talk with her about it and sex then take the kindle away for a few days.  Kids that age are curious

TashaLav
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 2:26 PM

I would say talk to her about it! Seriously I remember going to the library in 5th grade with my friend and looking at sex posistion books! We had sex ed and we seriously just thought it was funny...I wouldn't make it out to be a HUGE deal because its common for kids! Idk what your defination of porn or what kind of porn it was. No one ever found out about my friends and me since we didn't have the books just looked in the library at them...  

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