I have no idea what I am am doing. I had a bad marriage for several years and never thought I would want anyone else in my life because of this. But...because of the marriage going south I worked long hours and pulled doubles almost everyday not for money but an escape from my husband and his cheating and cold ways. During this time I became friends with my co-workers making it feel like a family, I met a great guy named Robert who made me laugh which I hadn't done in years.
Robert and I quickly became friends and purposely worked together because we enjoyed each others company, he also had a bad relationship in his marriage. Before I knew what was happening I had developed feelings for him, it scared me how quickly it happened. Although I knew it was wrong I kept spending time with him. We eventually admitted our feeling toward each other, yes he felt the same. I went to my husband and told him my feelings, He did not deal with it well at all even though he had cheated on me several times during our marriage. I decided to end our marriage, not just because of Robert but because my husband and I should not have been married in the first place.
I have a son from a relationship before who is very sweet and loving. Robert and I decided they would meet for the first time. They hit it off from the get go, which meant so much to me. I in turn met three of his four children, they were all so sweet and timid, but i fell in love with those little faces. The problem was, he was still married. I know how horrible it sounds, believe me, I was the wife before i was the other woman. after much drama and Robert having to follow his wife to TN to be with his children they decided to split. She knows about me and although I am sure she doesnt care for me I want her to know i care for the kids very much and dont want to take her place. I would love to ask her advice on things wiht them, I am sure that she would like the idea of me struggling with the kids but i want us to be one big family, not one that is torn. How do I go about talking to her and asking her to write a list on concerns she may have with me? i would like for us to work as a team on raising the children.