So, I've been with my husband 8.5 years. Give or take. Been in my skid's life since youngest was 18 mo old. And they've lived with us past 5 years.
Fast Forward....mom gets boyfriend (2nd or 3rd now). Nice guy. They are now engaged.
So 2 nights ago she is telling us a story of what they did and referred to him as papa. My DH and I both were like HUH? So I asked her who is papa? And she says _ _ _ _ _. I say ohhh ok. She says yeah, he's like my dad so we call him papa.
No big deal....my DH doesn't have a problem cause he is a good guy (FINALLY SHE GOT ONE!) But kind of a slap in MY face. He's only been in the picture a little while. I've been here her whole life. They say I'm "just Kelly, just their step mom." But he's their soon to be step dad and want to call him papa and papa's ok with it. BAM! Kinda hurt my feelings, tho maybe it shouldn't???
She has called me mom on a RARE occasion, but only if she wants something. Whatever...I'm not their mom, but I do way more than BM, I'm ALWAYS around. Just kinda a shock value to us both. And yes SS12 refers to him that too.