Have any of you SMs had to completely cut yourself off from an adult SC? Advice on how you handle the situation needed.
Some of you may recognize my situation as I have written about it here a few times. I have struggled with the problems I have had with my SS for two years and nothing I have tried has helped the situation. The last straw with him came when he refused my "olive branch of peace" the weekend of my father-in-law's death and when he shunned my at the funeral (he turned his back on me in the pallbearers line rather than shake my hand like he did the rest of the family, etc). So, after many conversations with my therapist, tears, attempts to talk with my DH (a major conflict avoider and obviously NO help to me), I decided with my therapist's blessing to simply be done with SS. The therapist agrees that I have done all I can to make peace and if SS is so immature (age 24) and really a jerk (she used more "therapy type words," as to refuse my efforts, then I have done all I can. She also agreed that this situation is hurting me emotionally and that from now on all I need to do if I am around him at a family gathering is to be polite, i.e. "hello" etc. My question for you is, have any of you had to deal with this type situation and how did you handle it? I am nervous and afraid my DH will force me to be around SS (his birthday is coming in a couple of months). I don't want to be the reason DH and SS are apart although honestly SS never calls DH except on his birthday and Father's Day. Maybe I just need some reassurance. Help anyway, advice? This is a new mindset for me.