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BM and SM

Posted by on May. 3, 2012 at 9:53 AM
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When reading stuff on here do you read as one or the other when you are in fact both?

I am a SM to a little girl who is here every other week.  I am BM to 3 boys.  My oldest isn't my husbands, and goes to his dads a few times a year.  He doesn't have a SM and the newest gf I haven't met.  Sometimes I forget that I am a BM on here.  I am sure it is because of the lack of interaction with my ex.  

Which view do you tend to see from?

by on May. 3, 2012 at 9:53 AM
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ame4c
by on May. 3, 2012 at 9:57 AM
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 I read from both sides because I am both.  My opinions come from my experience as both.  However, since I'm a CSM, I tend to respond more like a BM than a SM.  My Skid lives with us full time and we have little to no interaction with his BM.

4and1mom
by on May. 3, 2012 at 10:06 AM
I am both but usually read as sm since I don't have any conflict or drama on the bm side and both of my bios with my ex are grown.
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Mom2Goldilocks
by on May. 3, 2012 at 10:12 AM

I am both. In this group I read more like a SM.



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Ms.Gwen
by on May. 3, 2012 at 10:13 AM
I'm a CSM only, so that's how I respond.
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rose0919
by on May. 3, 2012 at 10:16 AM

i tend to read as a sm. i dont have issues with bm side except the fact he isnt in her life at all ,even behind in cs . 

i do tend to read as bm in cs issues, but then again i see the sm side of that too. i would say 90% of the time as sm.

YesImMomToo
by on May. 3, 2012 at 10:20 AM
I am both but only read and respond as a csm.
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atownrb
by on May. 3, 2012 at 10:27 AM
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I am both and I think I almost always respond as both, I usually give my opinion from both sides.
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whatIknownow
by Ruby Member on May. 3, 2012 at 10:27 AM

I am both. I tend to read as a CSM, but sometimes I read as a BM-with-overstepping-SM, because of  my sister's sitch. In my own sitch the SM is not overstepping at all, but in my sister's sitch, she's like the Patron Saint of Oversteppers. I think my sister's sitch has colored my views.

katcb1019
by Bronze Member on May. 3, 2012 at 10:32 AM

 I am both. I however have very few conflicts as bm. For the most part odds bf and I co-parent very well.

As sm- my dh has a alot of conflict with bm and she has tried very hard to push him out of sds life. Even telling a therapist that she wanted him to sign off his rights so her bf could adopt and they could be a "real" family.

So, I mostly respond as sm, I would say. That is where most of my conflict lies and we have gone through more emotionally as well.

rwblake2011
by on May. 3, 2012 at 10:34 AM
I am both. I think I reply from both sides.
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