** in case this makes a difference he will be 4 in july**
There are just some things I'm concerned about.. BM informed us that he has been having "night terrors" and of course they were blamed on him for not being able to get him. Since her and her ex have split (he was physically abusive to her in front of ss) and now she goes out and leaves him with whoever is available (what kid wouldn't have problems).
Kids do not have a great concept of time, so her blaming SO and saying that it's all his fault is a ploy to make him feel bad.
Also, in this 10 week time period he has gained 10 pounds. This sends up a red flag to me, I know kids go through growth spurts, but 10 pounds in 10 weeks?
Everything in combination just doesn't sit right with me, but of course I'll just get your opinions for my own piece o mind and sit on the back burner :)