Back story: BM lives with her mom, the grandma is the one that does a majority of SD's care and does all exchanges for BM.
So, SD doesn't bring clothes back and forth with her. BM has clothes for her at her house and we have clothes for her here. This last weekend that SD was home I didn't get her clothes from BM's washed and dried in time. Well, apparently BM's mom, the grandma was REALLY pissed about it. She made SD call me on speaker phone Friday on the way to the exchange to make me promise to send the shirt back with SD. At the exchange Grandma says "You still have her gray jacket with the pink lettering, I need that back on Sunday." I was raining and the grandma refused to allow SD to take the jacket she had worn to the exchange with her. I keep extra jackets for all the kids in the car so it wasn't that big of a deal.
Anyways, today I'm getting SD's things ready to go back tomorrow and I get the shirt from last weekend and her things from this weekend and I look at the jacket and realize that the one she's talking about is a jacket that MY aunt bought SD for Christmas! (My aunt doesn't have grandkids and has adopted my kids as her's for Christmas and birthdays). Part of me wants to tell grandma "sorry, that was a present from her aunt."
But, we'll be sending the jacket and shirt back with SD tomorrow to pacify the grandma. BM has no idea any of this is going on. She signed the new parenting plan giving DH custody as soon as school lets out. Apparently the grandma is SUPER pissed about this and is taking it out on everyone involved. She originally tried to get BM to get DH to agree to give her (the grandma) custody and DH would continue with every other weekend and half the summer.
I can't tell you how often they've kept clothes that DH and I bought for SD. When SD first start wearing bras they'd send her back to DH without one, I've easily spend a good $200 on bras for her over the last 2 years, that's more than I've spent on bras for myself in the same time frame!
June CANNOT come fast enough.