Hello, Ladies. I am a new custodial stepmother (of 9 months). I have an almost-9-year-old stepdaughter whom I have known since she was in the first grade. I have no daughters of my own. I have custody of my two precious sons who are very young. I always wanted a little girl, too!
Next year, my SD will be in fourth grade. Our relationship is positive, but a bit formal and not very close as it once was (credit her BM who has pulled her away from me).
I remember that fourth grade was a dramatic time physically for me in which I hit puberty and craved spending time with my mother. I expect my stepdaughter will be this way, too, because it seems only natural. I am just afraid that she will pull away from me and only want her mother. I am trying to prepare myself.
My question is: If you have lived the change of your SD hitting puberty, what was it like? Did she pull away from you, or did it draw her closer to you as she needed help figuring things out? Thank you for your feedback.