my husband has a 12 year old daughter with his first wife. and she is a pain in the ass. her father and i got married last november and have been together for 3 years. anyways she desided to tell everyone that i was not her parent and i could not tell her what to do or ground her from anything. she has put her hands on me multiple times and im seriously about sick of it. she doesnt listen worth a damn and i dont know where else to turn bc my husband wont stand up and she runs to her grandmother whenever i tell her to do something. i swear im gonna show her she has to but i know that spanking a 12 yr old she would probably just laugh at me... anyone got an idea?