Part of my reasoning is I never really liked celebrating mother's day when I was with my ex. He would make sure our girls told me Happy Mother's Day and have them color a card but I lost my son before they were born so Mother's Day has always been hard for me. Last year I got bombarded by my step-sons b/c their church teachers told them to. I told DH last night that since my girls are going to be at their dads church, and the boys go to ours I'm spending the day at home and out of it. I don't feel that it is fair to either sets to celebrate with them. If they make me cards I will give them hugs and thank them but I honestly don't feel like celebrating this year. My son passed away 13 years ago the day before mother's day. My kids are all to young to understand that it is a hard holiday for me. When the time comes I will tell them but not this year.